I understand perfectly what Mr. Situation Man's response was to Niambi in his e-mail reply. It was code for "I can't wait to take, take, take and take some more from you. I have no interest in investing myself in you. I am not going to make any promises to you, or change *my* life in any way. I will *allow* you to give, give, give your love to *me* and I can't wait to see what you have to give me,since you are offering more goodies than Santa Claus, and for free, and with no strings attached. Even for the man in the red suit I have to behave myself if I want more than coal or an empty stocking. But, you, Niambi? You are far more generous than Santa Claus! I don't even have to behave myself during the year, and I still end up with a full stocking. I can't wait until you're back home to see what goodies you leave me. Then, when you turn around and leave, I'll share them with my live in girlfriend. Give all you want. I'm here for the taking. (and taking, and taking, and taking..)

Niambi! If you fall for this? Shame on you!

Niambi said something to Iyanla about how when you hear what you want it just pulls you in deeper. You "heard what you WANTED" in that e-mail?? Geez! I think it's more: "I read into what I hoped he'd really mean, in that e-mail." He didn't say one iota or breadcrumb of flattery or anything that says, "I love you" in there. Nothing. at.all.

If Niambi is "pulled in" any deeper with that tripe? She's pulled all the way down the rabbit hole and into Wonder Land! Say hi to the Chesire cat and the White Rabbit for me! That scary fantasy land would be more fun that this relationship! Kick.him.to.the.curb!

And Iyanla just talks more cr*p about "if Niambi chooses this relationship--blah blah" why didn't Iyanla ask Niambi, "Where's the love in his response?"

Answer: None.