Thank you SR....I know what Sarah thought she was doing was for the good of Bethany and sometimes people don't recognize that other family members grieve just as hard as they do...I liked Sarah and although, she shouldered up for Bethany's return home, I believe she was suffering, too. I also wished they had offered Sarah a chance to get thru her grief by staying at SO, but I'm sure they figured Bethany needed her more and didn't want to take away her support (they seem very close), however, if SO invites Bethany back maybe they will include Sarah at some point as well.

My mother couldn't understand the way my father grieved so she totally focused on me for all her support (my younger sister was just as bad as mom was with her grief...so I felt I had to be strong for them both)....after realizing that I couldn't do it "all", the support group help us tremendously...we made it through...it took a while for me and my sister, mom took a lot longer because she just couldn't let go.... but she's doing better now .

As you say we all grieve differently and we have to do it in our own space and time...when Bethany is really ready, I hope SO keeps their promise to bring her back so she can discover herself again with joy in her heart.

Again, thank you for your kind response.

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