It sounds like they both have the same issue in a way. It's one thing to have a knack for something and another thing to make it work.

For Christie she keeps announcing to people that she is compassionate almost like a bumper guard in a conversation when she is dishing out unpleasant news. What would be more effective is for her to act compassionately. Acting with compassion is much more difficult.

At the moment she believed Jodi was slipping in the control area if she wanted to be compassionate and helpful she could have acted. Perhaps during the exercise that was the time to take the scary leap, not out of criticism but as part of a way to allow Jodi to take a different path. She could offer to Jodi, "hey, no let me try, you've been leading for awhile now and that's what you always do, let's try something new." If she was saying this from compassion instead of criticism then it would have been on Jodi to to accept or reject the offer.

Okay this was an idealized time and reaction. But at anytime from the point she thought Jodi was being controlling I wonder if Christie remembered if it was Jodi's identified issue and actually felt compassion that Jodi was slipping, not just victimized that she was not enjoying the exercise.

I don't really believe she feels much compassion because she acts like she's still the victim. I suspect this because she is still so critical and angry. It's like she's faking the enlightenment. It's better than not being at all compassionate or enlightened but she ends up having these passive aggressive conversations:

The subtext for her one on one conversations to me is "You and the world made me miserable so clean up your act B***h" and I'm saying this nicely so don't say anything back, ok?" She says it with nice words but her actions of the day and her driving need to complain don't match her claim that it's out of compassion.

I wish Christie would keep busy, like with her race and not think all her feelings need to be revealed to everyone she cares about. She ends up revealing every critical thought she has even though she attempts to disguise them in her positive spins.