See? Baseball svcks.
One of our friends had a "gotta win coaching" issue with his kid in soccer last summer. The league are kids play in is very recreational. All summer we play (once per week) and don't even report scores. The fields are all side by side and games are often paused because of balls from other fields crossing into play.
Then the season ends with a Saturday "tournament". Scores are kept, and teams get eliminated. But it is still the rec league, right? Wrong-o for her son's coach, who basically benched the kid for much of the Saturday since he wasn't one of the strongest kids.
The kid was crushed that this team he had played on all season suddenly didn't want him.
I understand and appreciate that some teams are select teams. My experience with those was always about making the team, and then those who make the team get to play. I don't recall situations where once someone had made the team they might not get to play. But rec should be all about letting everyone play.
Sorry that this has impacted your neighbour relations.
Maybe time to take your iPad to the game and watch some videos (out loud!!)
and I particularly like this one: