I was so disappointed to see Niambi on the phone with situation man. This man is never going to love her. She is allowing her self to be nothing more than a sexual object, a booty-call. I can only hope that any other women out there who might be in similar situations can see how disrespective to one's self this type of behavior is. I just hope that when this man finely, and completely breaks her heart, that she doesn't suddenly declare all men to be worthless dogs. My older brother taught me a very profound lesson when I was just 15 or 16-years-old.

I was walking home from the corner store when a very handsome young man stopped to talk to me. We stood at the corner and held a very polite conversation, when my older brother walked up and ordered me to go home. He later told me that he knew that I wasn't doing anything wrong, but the message being sent by allowing a strange guy to stop me on a street corner to flirt was not the one I should desire. He said, "If you want to be treated like a lady, you have to present a lady." All he meant was that guys will treat women the way they allow themselves to be treated. I've taken that little talk my brother gave me way back in the 70's throughout my life. And, I am happy to say, that for the most part, all the guys I dated were pretty decent, because I would not accept anything less. My husband of 18-years has been absolutely wonderful to me.

So, Niambi, get off the street corner, drop the player-player, and start treating yourself well, so that others (especially men) will follow suit. I'm not judging you Niambi, I think you are a beautiful, intelligent woman (except when it comes to situation man). Cry, scream, beat the wall, but please girl, wash that fool right out of your hair and heart!

DeltaDarkStar