Dr. Stan Katz is the only one on SO with any proper credentials. He advised Cassie to drop it. Why? Rhonda kept encouraging Cassie to pursue it. Why?

Rhonda - no degree, no licensure, no experience with adoption, no welfare experience I know of ---

vs. Dr. Stan - degree, licensure, experience interviewing children that have gone through hell and back, court advocate...

Wow... I wonder whose advice I would follow?

Yeah and in adoption agencies, the proper way to do it would have been Cassie to notify a mediator. He/She would have notified the son directly (if he was 18 at the time). The son would have informed mediator if he wanted to meet. There would have been no direct line from biological mother to offspring. This is how many adoption agencies handle this question.

Apparently the son didn't want to meet.

Back off Cassie. And back off B-M SO who wants to have a good show with some ratings.