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"Dismissed"
EnglProf 888 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Fitness Correspondent"
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03-22-04, 11:20 PM (EST)
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1. "RE: Dismissed" |
I don't know-- I didn't think he'd get rid of her right after finding out, but I don't blame him for it either. As my husband pointed out, she mentioned that she has a son like it was a dirty little secret. She also just kind of threw it right out there. "I have a son, did you know that?" She said herself right afterwards that she didn't explain herself well. I think that had she prepared him a little bit and conveyed what her situation was really like she would have been better off.But, can you really blame a guy for not wanting to choose a woman on a dating show like this who had a 6 year old at home? I'm not implying there's something wrong with having a child, but these reality dating shows rarely work, and to throw the feelings of a little kid in the mix seems cruel. To me there were just suddenly too many unknowns. He doesn't have the chance to meet her son and decide how he feels about the situation-- and see if the kid likes him, etc. All he knows is that LOTS of things are going to be up in the air and having a young kid and his mom hanging in the balance really isn't fair. On a slightly separate note: Yes, it looks like Adam has and will give in to the smooching urge, but I think that he's coming off fabulously so far. Whereas Bachelor Bob made me dislike him with his reality tv reprisal, I'm liking Adam more and more-- though I wouldn't have thought that was possible given how much I was rooting for him w/ Melana. Go Adam. You are, as they say on American Idol, the "real deal."
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ladro 1168 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Politically Incorrect Guest"
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03-22-04, 11:47 PM (EST)
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3. "RE: Dismissed" |
I don't think it was wrong for Adam to boot Brittany because she had a kid, and I really don't care. i'm p:ssed because I had picked her for the final two, without the benefit of knowing her family situation. yes, I'm a selfish bast@rd.
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Big Slick 85 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Hollywood Squares Square"
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03-23-04, 03:10 AM (EST)
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7. "RE: Dismissed" |
I had her too! Had I known she had a kid I would have dropped her to the bottom. Not that I have anything against women who have children. I've dated quite a few. Heck at my age (31) you it's difficult finding women who don't have children, so I've come to accept that. Now it's just a question of how many I'm willing to put up with, because I do want some of my own someday. Right now, 1 is ok, 2 is pushing it but she had better be pretty f*cking amazing, 3 is out of the question. Now if I'm not married in 5 years, you can expect that index to change with 2 being ok and 3 pushing it, and so on and so forth. So what I'm saying is as we get older our attitudes about things change (big revelation there), and we become a little more tolerant about some things (kids, how many, short, tall, missing teeth, humps, etc.) and less about others (playing hard to get, mind games, guilt trips, oops I'm being redundant), but you get the point. That's why I a little surprised that Adam cut her right away, because isn't he like 28? I can see why he cut her, but If it was me and I had a crush on her, I wouldn't have gotten rid of her, Harvey's daughter (see Boston Public) would have had to take one for the team because, come on, she isn't going to be picked, even though she almost made me cry tonight damn her! All she needs is a nose job and a lobotomy and she would be perfect, damn her again for making me feel bad for saying that, but it had to be said. Let's not get it twisted folks. Everyone wants the geeky nice person to get picked until they are the ones doing the picking, Adam will prove my point very shortly, and you will too when you go on your next date, or turn down that doofus from work that keeps asking you out.
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Lisapooh 12664 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Playboy Centerfold"
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03-23-04, 00:46 AM (EST)
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4. "RE: Dismissed" |
I think it's best that Adam was honest and cut her now - especially since he did seem to like her. If potentially being a step-parent isn't something he's willing to do - would you rather have him keep her around and end up hurting her more? Pretend to be ok with her child while he tries on the idea?As a single mom I'd rather find out early on that a guy has a problem with dating someone with a kid than find that out later. And trust me, a lot of men don't want to date someone with a child. And that's no different than not wanting to date someone of another faith or race or too short too tall too thin too fat. It's a preference - one we may or may not agree with. It's not like it's kinder to date someone "in spite" of their child. To me, the guy has to be good enough for my kid - not the other way around. She doesn't audition to see if a guy can handle it. A child isn't something to be hidden away or ashamed of. I'm always up front about being a parent otherwise it's just a total waste of time. I wouldn't introduce guys to my daughter right away - but they know about her. I wouldn't want to like a guy, invest time in the relationship and then find out he has a problem with my kid. And I wouldn't want to have to spring that on someone either - that's a pretty crappy thing to do. Adam is young - there's lots of women around that don't have kids - the older he gets, that will change. I always think it's kind of ridiculous when guys in their late 30s and 40s don't want to get involved with someone with a child.
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darkfalz 15 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Got Milk? Spokesperson"
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03-23-04, 00:50 AM (EST)
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You're way off. Do you think that just because there are more people with AIDS these days than ever, it's a good thing? That there are more drug users and STDs and promiscuity and violent crimes and everything else is a sign that we are moving forward?Just because so many women these days are having kids out of wedlock with different fathers, that doesn't mean it's what anyone with good values would want! Decent people out there still want a real family, two married parents and their children. Single mothers are the scum of the earth, welfare drains and just looking for guys to feed their brats because they kicked the real father out or picked some deadbeat who wasn't going to be a faithful partner and father. I'm disgusted at how many movies and TV shows these days show that the ultimate "romantic" thing a man can do is take on a single mother who's got a kid. That's not romantic, that's pathetic! That is denying yourself the chance to have your OWN family. Supporting another guys genes is the biggest biological and evolutionary sin you can make. It's basically the same thing as cuckolding, except that you actually know you are doing it!
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darkfalz 15 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Got Milk? Spokesperson"
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03-23-04, 08:06 AM (EST)
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16. "RE: Dismissed" |
LAST EDITED ON 03-23-04 AT 08:18 AM (EST)I know, a single mother isn't just a woman with a kid. It's a woman who thinks chasing men is more important than raising her child. It's a woman who couldn't or wouldn't make her relationship with the child's father work, or worse still, just slept with a guy and got pregnant without even having a relationship with him. She's not just damaged goods, she's also clearly lacking in morals and values and expecting way too much for some guy to take on her burden! Single mothers should only be dating single fathers, since they are in the same boat. And also, they should let their childrens fathers actually be fathers to their kids! Instead of using it to "punish" him when it was probably her fault they broke up! Have you noticed this incredibly unfair double standard women have? They call men pigs if the men won't accept flaws that the women have when the men don't. For example, if a man who keeps himself in shape doesn't want to date an obese woman, he's a shallow pig. But why? Why is it wrong for him to ask for what he himself ahs to offer? Likewise, if a single man who respects the traditional family unit, marriage and children within wedlock, doesn't want to date some single mother who hads kids to two different men and she never married neither, why is he a creep? Now the thing that really makes this a double standard is that women are the opposite. They frequently reject guys for having flaws they THEY HAVE TOO. For example, a short woman is unlikely to give a short man a chance, because she wants a guy who's tall. And overweight women tend to shirk overweight men and only date guys who are thin. Likewise, single mothers prey on men who don't have children, because they figure if he has no baggage of his own more of his finances can go to her and her kid. Disgusting female behaviour, and yet they try to make US feel guilty for merely wanting someone at our own level.
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thetick 279 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Network TV Show Guest Star"
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03-23-04, 03:31 AM (EST)
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LAST EDITED ON 03-23-04 AT 03:31 AM (EST)you go on lisapooh I'm glad not to be the one replying right after that. Anyways, Adam wasn't a jerk to cut her now. It was for the best. If he knows he is not ready to take on a kid ( and he said he wasn't) then there is no point in stringing her along. Personally, I think he is crazy as said mom was major league hot and so far seemed to have a sweet personality. Her being 23 and her son being 6 already means she had him fairly young so it was likely a youthful mistake. Single moms are also good because you can pick up a kid w/o having to slog through the first couple of years where the kid is just a useless eating/excreting machine. Ok, I know that is heresy to the mother, but infants stink. Once they can stumble around, and talk a little they are so much more rewarding. And if you can get one already potty trained that is a huge bonus in so much grief you save yourself.
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darkfalz 15 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Got Milk? Spokesperson"
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03-23-04, 06:26 AM (EST)
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Getting pregnant at 16 or 17 isn't a "youthful mistake", it's a sure sign that the girl has low moral fibre and doesn't take responsibility for her actions. Adam deserves WAY better.
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heracane 52 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Hollywood Squares Square"
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03-23-04, 06:26 AM (EST)
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11. "not a jerk" |
I am a single mom of two wonderful boys, and recently I got engaged to a man who has never been married and has no kids of his own. Adam isn't narrow minded, he just knows he doesn't want to date someone who has kids at this point in his life. I think that is perfectly acceptable. Just as I didn't want to date men who were younger than me. Different Life experiences..its ok.. Being a single mom doesn't mean you are damaged goods.. by no means. It does put an obstacle up, in a good way I think. I believe if she weren't on National tv and had time to really get to know him a bit, it wouldn't be such a shock. Usually, I would date men that didn't mind that I had kids, then I found one that found it to be a bonus..She is right though, I hated it when people would say, oh he will be a great father to your kids.. I always corrected them too, They already have a great father.. their own.. My fiancee is a good male role model though.
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mmm_link 426 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Daytime Soap Guest Star"
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03-23-04, 08:05 AM (EST)
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15. "RE: Dismissed" |
Maybe she can return in AJ4 and pick through 19 buffed up gorgeous intelligent men willing to father her child. Do you think the producers will find any honest men?
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darkfalz 15 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Got Milk? Spokesperson"
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03-23-04, 08:25 AM (EST)
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20. "RE: Dismissed" |
Um keep dreaming. Those kinds of guys don't want single mothers any more than Adam does.
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