I had no idea of the feelings involved. And I apologize in advance for whatever I say that is insensitive. I try to be inquisitive, but I certainly don't like to offend, even unintentionally.

My friend was in his late thirties before he decided to get his, and I guess he would still be considered deaf as you say, but he can hear now. Much to the appreciation of his family, friends, co-workers, and I assume himself. Until I read your reaction, I had no idea that the CIs were anything but a semi-miracle for those for whom they provided improved hearing. I stand enlightened.

He never showed any sign that he considered himself to be part of the deaf community. As far as I know he never even learned sign language. He works as an engineering assistant. I and his other co-workers did have to make some accommodations for him, but that was just part of everybody's normal workday environment. We had to make sure he was looking at us when we spoke and tapped him on the shoulder whenever there were general announcements or fire drills (etc) were held.