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"An update for anyone who is interested."
Nathan Griffin 73 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Hollywood Squares Square"
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07-29-05, 01:21 AM (EST)
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"An update for anyone who is interested." |
Okay. First off, I have to say "hey" to everyone here. I realize that I made a few posts in the past and then *poof* I was gone. My reason for that was due to my 'contractual obligations' to NBC. I would have loved to stick around and offer insight into the show but I had to be a good boy.I've been reading a lot of boards today and noticed a lot of people were wondering what has happened between Anna and myself over the course of this past year. Here it is folks... There has been a lot of talk since the end of the show last night that Anna chose me as a 'safety.' People have been saying that the show was rigged. People have been saying that her and I shared no 'spark' and she was coaxed into her decision. I can assure you that it was her decision and her decision ALONE. The producers of NBC didn't even know her decision until she delivered it to Rocky. Anna and I made the decision (her decision obviously counted more than mine!) that finding a lasting friendship and seeing how things developed from there was more important than lust and good looks. She and I found equality in each other, common interests, common goals etc. BUT... we both left the show as friends and I could ask for nothing better. It's been almost a year (wait... it HAS been a year) since the show was taped and over the course of that year, we've stayed in touch via phone calls and e-mails. Due to the 'secrecy' issue that follows almost ALL reality shows, we were not allowed to be seen in public together which meant that for the entire time we were all waiting for the show to air, we haven't been able to see each other. I'm sure this is what most of the viewers expected. Currently, I am very happy in a relationship which developed unexpectedly out of a friendship pre-show. Anna and I are STILL in touch and she is extremely supportive. I have to say... I've been reading boards and comments all over the internet and people aren't giving Anna near enough credit for what she went through on the show. She is truly an amazing person. She's caring, compassionate, intelligent and genuine. So as things stand... I accomplished everything I set out to accomplish by going on the show. I've met some amazing people, done things I'll probably never have the chance to do again, done things I'll definitely never WANT to do again (ie. wear silly red wrestling outfits and eat 8-billion sloppy joes) and maintained my integrity and my self respect. The friendships that I've formed on the show I have no doubt will last for the rest of my life (included my friendship with Anna). So although there are those of you out there who will probably respond with "I figured as much" ... I will say that NEITHER of us knew what would happen when all was said and done. Anna said "I can't promise anything" and I respected her greatly for that as I too could promise nothing... how COULD we?! We knew things would be day-by-day and there is no way to fully comprehend what tomorrow will bring. So regardless of the fact that Anna and I never found a relationship together, I can honestly say that I have love for her and will always treasure the experience we were both a part of. So here I am... working my butt off on my illustration work which can be seen here at www.lumpstuff.com, preparing myself to go back to school, planning a reunion of sorts for the rest of the 'Average Joes' and living a happy life with my girlfriend. Anna is working her butt off, trying to start her own business (which I think will be extremely successful), spending time with family and close friends and riding the last wave in this insane adventure. I realize there will be a lot of questions and I'll do my best at answering them all. I just felt it necessary to let everyone know what's going on as of late. And I don't know if I made the point I was TRYING to make so I will give it one last go... ... regardless of the fact that Anna and I are not dating, I believe what we BOTH got from our experience on the show was and will continue to be extremely fruitful both in our lives (and hopefully) the lives of the viewers. I spoke with her today and the both of us have had an amazing response from people... thanking us for being who we are, thanking us for giving them hope, thanking us for staying true to ourselves. We are both extremely flattered and AMAZED that something like a reality tv can affect the lives of so many people and to be honest with you... I still feel as though I don't deserve the response that I've gotten as I've done nothing but be myself. So now that I've written a novel, I will leave you with... "To those who have shown their genuine support of the castmembers on the show... I thank you. I hope you all had as much fun WATCHING the show as we had creating it." Thanks (even to those of you with 'negative feedback.' As an artist, I've come to appreciate even negative criticism ;)
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mmm_link 426 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Daytime Soap Guest Star"
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07-29-05, 08:10 AM (EST)
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3. "RE: An update for anyone who is interested." |
My only comment is I can't understand why producers want to wait for a whole year before showing a show about two people supposedly falling for each other. Seems like a cruel way to control the lives of two people for a year. Best of luck Nathan.
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Nathan Griffin 73 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Hollywood Squares Square"
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07-29-05, 10:12 AM (EST)
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15. "RE: An update for anyone who is interested." |
mommy2bree.Thank you for your response. It was in NBCs best interest that the show wasn't aired immediately after it was taped due to ratings issues and a lot of other things I'm sure. It did make things difficult for Anna and myself to 'develop a relationship' but when we both returned to our lives back home it would have been difficult regardless. We were pulled from our lives to be on the show and upon returning home, there was SO much work for the both of us. We stayed in touch as I've said and I can be none happier than with the overall outcome than I am. To be honest, the thing that makes me the feel the best is... the REALITY behind the show. And now, here we are a year later, able to share that reality with the viewers. I had always been concerned that my memories of the show and the situation in general would be 'skewed' and pushed and tweaked until it wasn't how I remember it to be but I think both the outcome and the fact that I can now share my opinions makes people feel more at ease about everything. This is life and for the time we spent on the show... it was OUR lives and our memories being created. There is nothing unreal about it for any of the people who took part. I'll try and get the rest of the guys to come back and make some updates on their lives. I know for certain that we're all very busy with our lives right now, not because of the show but because we've had a year to integrate ourselves back into the real world and start pursuing those things which we put off to be on the show. I'll see what I can do Thanks again!
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Nathan Griffin 73 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Hollywood Squares Square"
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07-29-05, 10:19 AM (EST)
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19. "RE: An update for anyone who is interested." |
So long as it can all now seem more 'real' to the viewers. If there's anything I hope to come from this experience it's to let the viewers understand that although the situations might be slightly surreal.. the experience itself was VERY real for everyone involved. I was afraid when all was said and done that my memories of the show would be swallowed up by the 'reality tv' aspect of it but I'm glad that I am now able to share those memories and some amount of the 'other side' of reality tv.
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true 9689 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Playboy Centerfold"
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07-29-05, 10:05 AM (EST)
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14. "RE: An update for anyone who is interested." |
Nate!Thanks for stopping by to let us know how things are going. You were great on the show, and your makeover was amazing. You are a great looking guy. Fixed or not, Anna made the right decision. The way that I looked at the choice is that if I knew that I wasn't ready to marry either finalist, why not pick the one who is genuine, smart, and fun to be around. You were clearly that finalist. No offense to Rocky, who seemed like a nice enough guy, but it was clear to me that he was there to further his career, not make a love connection. Props to Anna for making the smart choice. Good luck, and thanks for posting!
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Nathan Griffin 73 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Hollywood Squares Square"
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07-29-05, 10:17 AM (EST)
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18. "RE: An update for anyone who is interested." |
haha!suuuuuuuuuuuuuure you can have her phone number! it's uh... er... um.. 555-123-4567?? not sure if that's right but let me know and I'll get back to you ;)
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freakusmaximus 310 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Cooking Show Host"
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07-29-05, 11:51 AM (EST)
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23. "RE: An update for anyone who is interested." |
Hey Nathan: You were clearly the best pick and I am glad that Anna saw that. I am sure you have watched the show by now and have seen that when she was with Rocky that had NOTHING to say to each other. there were these really long silences that were pretty funny. also when she was on dates with Arthur the stuff he said we just so over the top I think any girl would be freaked out. you and her definitely had normal conversation (sparked by you) and seemed the most comfortable and normal together. anyway the question that I have is along the lines of what some of the other people were asking you. I have seen all of the average joe series and the first 2 girls (malena and larrisa) were very different than anna. they acted shocked and offended when they saw the "average" guys getting out of the bus. also during those seasons neither of those girls even kissed any of the average joes, acted sort of snobish about it. anna on the other hand, seemed less shocked. she also kissed almost everyone that she had a solo date with, including the average joes. do you think maybe the producers gave her a little background before hand or many they sought out someone who would be less stuck up and go with the flow? either way the show was definitely more entertaining and real to watch. I think she was really good and very real.
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Wacko Jacko 2434 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Seventeen Magazine Model"
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07-29-05, 11:57 AM (EST)
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24. "RE: An update for anyone who is interested." |
Actually you are wrong. Both of the other girls kissed the Joes too.
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bullzeye 4956 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Stuff Magazine Centerfold"
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07-29-05, 12:06 PM (EST)
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26. "RE: An update for anyone who is interested." |
I must concur with the many other posters who believe that Anna made the correct choice and must also thank you and congratulate you for your honest and articulate answers to our many questions. I think you are quite right to suggest that it is not realistic to make empty promises of love after such a short time together. A number of posters have appropriately suggested that NBC did not give enough of an opportunity to really get to know the contestants and allow the contestants to get to know each other - perhaps that prevented the opportunity to do so. If, at the end of the day, you can walk away with a lasting friendship (with Anna and the others), then that is remarkable in and of itself. Best wishes with your girlfriend and your career Nathan.
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DonnaLynn 582 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Reality Show Commentator"
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07-29-05, 12:43 PM (EST)
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28. "RE: An update for anyone who is interested." |
Nathan,Thanks for coming back and telling us your story. I am so happy for you and the fact that you are in a relationship. It is a shame that this thing was taped so long ago. Seems like even if you guys were a right fit together that it would have been all but impossible to let things bloom. (In this day and age, there is no reason it should take a year to get a show on the air! Within 2 weeks of the ending, it should have been edited and ready for air. Don't the execs see they are toying with people here?) Ok, now that my rant is over... I was one of the people who was very disapointed in the ending because I didn't see any spark with you guys, however, after hearing your side of the story, I feel much better with the outcome. I am so glad that both of you have grown from this experience and I wish you both nothing but the best of luck in the future! Thanks again for giving us insight into this show and what's been going on. This is better than a reunion show!!!! --Donna :~)
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luv2sk82 1 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "American Cancer Society Spokesperson"
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07-29-05, 12:49 PM (EST)
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29. "RE: An update for anyone who is interested." |
Hey Nathan, Thanks for being so open. It's cool to see someone being so honest when usually these shows are shrouded in secrecy. My question is, do you still keep in touch with "average" Josh? I just think he's so hot and seems like a really sweet guy. He took it very well when Anna booted him off the island, surprisingly enough, considering how much he seemed to dig her.
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Moother 132 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Blistex Spokesperson"
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07-29-05, 01:53 PM (EST)
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31. "RE: An update for anyone who is interested." |
I am really glad to hear that you are happy with your life and that things have gone well for you since the show. However, I am disappointed too because it appears that there is never any real intention of letting either the "Average Joe" or the "Hunk" have any kind of a relationship develope with Anna. There is no way to keep 2 people apart for a year and have any chance of a relationship. Since they do this on purpose it seems pre-determined. I am not saying you have'nt had some benefit from this experience because you did meet some nice people, you traveled, and had a couple of dates in places the normal guy wouldn't have a chance to go. It probably also opened your eyes to what you can truly offer someone. It just doesn't allow what we Average Janes in the audience would like to believe can happen. I have always assumed this type of programing was purely for entertainment value because IMHO there is no way that a person can be "falling" for someone if every night they are smooching with someone else. There is either an attraction which you build on or you keep looking elsewhere. This is the same problem I find with The Bachelor show. Mostly these shows just let us have a peak into the lives of other people and see that some are worse off than we are to make us feel better. Sad isn't it?
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Wacko Jacko 2434 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Seventeen Magazine Model"
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07-29-05, 02:32 PM (EST)
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35. "RE: An update for anyone who is interested." |
Nathan you live in Tampa then....how about Anna? I was wondering (if she is not from Tampa area) if that had been an issue also in your relationship? I think this is overlooked a lot when it comes to these shows.
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Nathan Griffin 73 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Hollywood Squares Square"
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07-30-05, 12:13 PM (EST)
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50. "RE: An update for anyone who is interested." |
hehe. I think he is indeed still available. I'm going to try to get him over here to make a few posts about what's been going on in his life. And yes... he really IS a great guy. He and I have formed an amazing friendship post-show.
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spiceonice 1 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "American Cancer Society Spokesperson"
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07-29-05, 08:10 PM (EST)
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40. "RE: An update for anyone who is interested." |
LAST EDITED ON 07-29-05 AT 08:11 PM (EST)Nathan! What's up my friend!? I'm so happy everything's working out for you! You're looking wicked awesome, too, mon bon pote! Your illustrations rock my face off. And you've written a facking novel too, that's wonderful! I admire you, letting your creative juices flow like that. Thanks for being such a fantastic part of a great programme. xD Stephanie Oh, and if you do keep in touch with the other guys, tell Josh N that I think he's a facking sexpot! ^_-
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Nathan Griffin 73 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Hollywood Squares Square"
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07-30-05, 12:15 PM (EST)
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52. "RE: An update for anyone who is interested." |
Oy! Thank you for your kind words. I'll let Josh know you're looking for him.
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TaraHeartsRooney 2 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "American Cancer Society Spokesperson"
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07-30-05, 05:22 AM (EST)
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42. "RE: An update for anyone who is interested." |
Nathan,Thank you very much for the update. I'm glad that you and Anna have remained such good friends. Which guy from the show have you bonded with the most? Are you friends with some of the "Hunks" as well as the Joes? Are most of the "Hunks" a lot friendlier than portrayed on NBC? I always thought that I would hate to play one of those guys on the show because America is supposed to dislike them. Was there really that much tension between Carson and Dante? I really wish that there was a reunion show. I would like an update from each and every guy. Good luck in your relationship! -Tara-
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Seana 5044 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Playboy Centerfold"
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07-30-05, 08:12 PM (EST)
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54. "RE: An update for anyone who is interested." |
Hello, NathanCongratulations! I enjoyed this installment of the show very much. I have read your blog, since you posted a link way back when. I must say I wondered when you mentioned having someone to spend the holidays with. Well, first I thought you had a GF (not Anna), then you won, and I figured I had it wrong, the GF was Anna. Of course, I was wrong. At the risk of endlessly repeating myself, I really thought Anna was a genuinely sweet girl and I wish her (and you, of course) the best. Good luck with Lump and his stuff. BTW, over on the NBC forums, Anna has posted her own after-show comments: http://www.nbc.com/boards/AverageJoe4/thread-189815-1.html And what fun, she sends folks to this very thread to "read it from Nathan's point of view".
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Nathan Griffin 73 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Hollywood Squares Square"
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07-30-05, 09:59 PM (EST)
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55. "RE: An update for anyone who is interested." |
I saw her comments and I'm glad she posted them... though... the NBC forums have a tendency to be populated by people who aren't often very nice. I just hope she's ready for the response. I chose to post mine here because I'd posted here before, but it's also been posted on a few reality websites.
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PeggiC1107 1 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "American Cancer Society Spokesperson"
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08-01-05, 02:14 PM (EST)
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57. "We are all interested!!!" |
It is nice to hear that you both are remaining friends. That is something that will last a lifetime!Our company watched and hoped for the best as we all work with your second cousin here in a small town in New England! Both your and Anna's honesty and sincerety was very evident and we wish you both tremendous happiness and success! Your letter to Anna, before you were initially sent off, brought tears to everyone, not just Anna. It was obvious the feelings she had and how you moved her. BEST WISHES!!!!
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Little Me 1 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "American Cancer Society Spokesperson"
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08-01-05, 11:56 PM (EST)
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60. "RE: We are all interested!!!" |
Nathan! You are definitely one awesome guy I am very happy the show ended this time around with a "Joe" getting the girl. And not just any Joe, but ooooh.. Nathan! I had to let you know that I liked both you and Anna a lot during the course of the show. I am sad to know you two never got a chance to really get to spend time together and be around each other. I wish you would have had more of the opportunity to do so because I would have loved to hear an update saying you were together still, but alas I know how reality (away from cameras) can be and I am still extremely happy that you have someone you love in your life and that things are still great between you and Anna. Please let her know she's definitely well-liked and has won a new fan! By the way, I loved your artwork. You are even more talented than you let on in the show. I already think you are cute as heck, but if you wore a t-shirt that said "Cupcake"... oooh baby, you'd be one word: Yummy! From a woman who married her best friend, to someone who understands the real way to find love is through friendship, I say, be well, congrats and many happy wishes for the future!
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08-01-05, 05:56 PM (EST)
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59. "RE: An update for anyone who is interested." |
Wow, what a world we live in where we can interact with people who play themselves on TV! Props to you, Nathan, for being enough of a geek to get in touch with your fans (compliment, not a put down). I enjoyed your presence on the show, and in fact you seemed super familiar to me throughout, although not as much after your makeover. I think you remind me of a colleague down the road.....Anyway, this season of AJ struck a particular chord with me, and I'm not sure which chord yet, or why. I suppose it's cool that I can post here and get direct feedback from you so I can figure that out, lol. Some of my favorite lines by you...(paraphrased) 1. Hell yea I've got a bounce in my step 2. I love my new teeth! 3. Beefcake/cupcake So, here's a real question I suppose, did you do the design for lumpstuff.com? Written in .php, does it use anything nuke (post, php, etc) related?
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AStefanie 1 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "American Cancer Society Spokesperson"
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08-02-05, 03:36 AM (EST)
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61. "RE: An update for anyone who is interested." |
Nathan Try as I might, I didn't get a chance to watch much of AJ after the first episodes....I only have a snapshot of your relationship with Anna from the promo's. My updates mostly came from the AJ boards, after the fact. I can "read" that you are one very nice guy from your posts. And I just wanted to say thanks for taking the time to address the posts presented. What an awesome forum for communication with a 'Joe' ! Good luck with all your future endeavors. Steph
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08-02-05, 06:13 PM (EST)
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62. "RE: An update for anyone who is interested." |
Nathan:First of all, I was glad you won and I am glad you have found so much happiness in your life. I am happy that you've chosen to post information about yourself for fans of the show. These things end and everyone always wants to know more and I appreciate that you've provided us some closure! I'm not sure if any of the other "joes" read these postings, but I just wanted to tell all of you how much respect I have for you. It takes so much to put yourself out there on television for millions of viewers. And with reality TV--there is no rehearsal. You guys let people see what you were really feeling at the time. There are not many people who would come clean about their emotions to their best friends, let alone the public! You all should be very proud of yourselves for being brave enough to let us in on your lives for a few weeks. That being said--best of luck to all of you. I hope that there are great things happening in all your lives like they are for Nathan and Anna. If you can survive a show like "Average Joe," you can do anything.
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