lol, I thought this was at first about Iyanla not calling Jill. "Then I meet a new guy who in a conversation before our first real date informs me that when he "makes it" he's gonna "Be like everyone else. By a Car, a House and a Wife."
******What is she, cruising the Arab shiek circuit? Buy a wife?
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This is why I haven't dated in so long.<
yea, blame the guys but honey, where are you looking for them?
And then sadly I think, Well at least HE called! Then, in my conversations with him after that comment (YES I continue talking to him)<
******Well, at least you know the thing you are supposed to do.
I realize something about dating and connecting with a man brings out this constant seeking of approval while trying not to appear that way, training yourself to have no expectations but knowing that a man that you have no expectations of is not the man that's gonna make your heart sing but somewhere hoping he is so you can stop this maddening dance...Does he want me? I don't care. But I wish he'd call...well so what if he doesn't...<
******no Jill. this is called 'playing games". Take it from a married woman. The real thing doesn't get off doing this to you. Become what you want in a man, then perhaps you will meet what you like. Until then, Stop looking!!!! live your life and get off the net with all of your moping.
That's a lie I want him to call! Well when he DOES call I will act like I don't care...But I do so why can't I tell him that? <
******why don't you act like you are 40 and not 14 yrs old?
This much I know is true. I would cut off a toe if my true love would call right now and I could give a ##### wheter Mr. No Expectations ever calls again. Can I just tell the tell the truth about my feelings???<
wow, what a turn on, Jill. A woman who will mutilate herself for a man. What guy wants the responsibilty of such a masogynist(spelling). A self punisher. Yea, you'd make a strong partner. At the first sign of problems you are cutting off body parts.