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"I don't think Rhonda likes T.J."
beachplum 11 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Got Milk? Spokesperson"
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12-13-05, 09:29 AM (EST)
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"I don't think Rhonda likes T.J." |
I felt so sad for Tj today. They never sit around and mock Lisa with her language and attitude. That is TJ's personality and that can not change because of her add. My daughter is exactly like that and mocking her will just cause more pain...that was a mean exercise. She has add explain more about that to the housemates!! But I must say Jill is a great roll player. I love when she mimics lisa!! Did anyone notice how Alison't voice changed when speaking with her moom?
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pamella 5 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "American Cancer Society Spokesperson"
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12-13-05, 11:00 AM (EST)
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1. "RE: I don't think Rhonda likes T.J." |
I know Rhonda does not like T.J. She looks at her with hate in her eyes and I think she know T.J.'s got her number and Rhonda not very bright. I call what Rhonda is doing is verbal abuse and for that reason they need to fire Rhonda ##### ASAP.
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Baxtera 923 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Fitness Correspondent"
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12-13-05, 01:00 PM (EST)
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2. "RE: I don't think Rhonda likes T.J." |
One of the things that is missing from this house is a safe environment where the hg's can trust one another during their exercises. Of all the people to have do an exercise Lisa was the worst. She is no model of behavior for anyone and actually this activity would have benefited her more than TJ do to the differences in their learning problems. Once again Rhonda chooses a humiliation exercise for TJ instead of first working with her one on one to practice. This is just another way of letting the others humiliate and not support her. A better solution would be to have them model appropriate interactions instead of humiliating her. Then again that's the only thing Rhonda seems to do with TJ shame/blame/humiliate. I wonder how baby Lisa would have reacted.
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shawnar 366 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Cooking Show Host"
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12-13-05, 03:23 PM (EST)
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3. "RE: I don't think Rhonda likes T.J." |
Gosh, I know its very obvious that Rhonda doesn't like Tj. Either that or she doesn't know how to help her. Why can't she bring a proffesional in there to help her? Together they could come up with assignments that will help her instead of humiliate her. I really don't believe Tj's communication skills are any poorer than Lisa's . Which by the way I do believe Lisa has some disorder that is not diagnosed.
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celisabeth 245 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Network TV Show Guest Star"
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12-13-05, 04:00 PM (EST)
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4. "RE: I don't think Rhonda likes T.J." |
I feel like this is nothing new, and that Rhonda gets incredibly petty and outright mean when she dislikes a woman she coaches. If you watched previous seasons, I think you'll see that she behaved similarly toward Kimberlyn, Karen, the second Christine (in the Chicago house, toward the end of Season 1), and then last season with Deborah, Denise and Sommer.With some of these women, I've felt that the Starting Over house was not good place for them, or that they weren't ready to be there. Christine, from what I saw of her, would've irritated me if I'd been her housemate. Deborah would've tried my patience, and TJ is way too in-your-face for me to believe that I'd like having her as a housemate. I tend to need some time for quiet reflection, and I don't get the sense that TJ could respect that. I'd guess that she'd be up in my face, demanding that I talk with her on a schedule that SHE felt was appropriate. But for me the issue isn't whether I liked any of the women I felt Rhonda treated disrespectfully, it was whether Rhonda was serving them well as a coach. I don't know whether it's been mentioned on this board, but I cringed when, during the Board of Review hearing, Rhonda made a kinda long speech about how TJ "isn't getting 'it'," and then, after she'd reiterated and underscored her point, she turned to the roommates and said "Can I get a concensus from the housemates?" I felt that Rhonda's question was manipulative and controlling. If any one of the housemates had disagreed with Rhonda's assessment, I suspect that Rhonda would've negated that woman's comments and we would've seen Rhonda in the days following treating that woman with rudeness and disrespect as punishment for having dared to disagree with Rhonda. Rhonda, in my opinion, needs to go. The sooner the better.
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deededell 271 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Network TV Show Guest Star"
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12-13-05, 11:39 PM (EST)
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9. "RE: I don't think Rhonda likes T.J." |
I am someone who watched people like Rhonda Britton abuse my brother all through his life. He was simply annoying for being who he was eventhough he struggled with ADD, learning disabilities and other issues. Now I am a mother to a ADHD child and child with obsessive compulsive child and learning disabled child. People like Rhonda Britton fear me. God forbid my child put themselves into a situation where they wanted to better themselves and a leader chooses to put them on a whipping post and let their peers have a hay day with them. The reason Rhonda and Iyanla had us all directed to this website was because they could not handle the harsh comments. TJ may not be for your liking, but if you are okay with watching another human being treated like that than I have to question your compassion level.
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lovemydogdude 1253 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Beef Jerky Spokesperson"
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01-04-06, 01:43 AM (EST)
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15. "RE: I don't think Rhonda likes T.J." |
I clicked on your above link and it said oops my photo is no longer here...just fyi...
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krissy868 5 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "American Cancer Society Spokesperson"
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12-14-05, 08:12 PM (EST)
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13. "RE: I don't think Rhonda likes T.J." |
I wonder if Rhonda sees the episodes before they air. If she does, she would see how misunderstood TJ really is. TJ even mentioned in one of the episodes that she had run out of her medication. Hello, that is the same day they sent the group to build the house for habitat for humanity. The houseguests also have to appreciate the effort TJ puts into their relationships. She truly has good intentions, but they have been lead to believe she is opinionated and obnoxious by Rhonda. The lack of respect the HG give her is amazing. They basically dismiss her because they don't acknowledge her. TJ is basically the only one in the house that is authentic. She calls all of them including Queen Allison on their stuff. She isn't there to make friends and lie. The problem is nobody there wants to hear the real truth. I think you will see a big change once Allison is gone. The true HG's will finally emerge. Everyone is too busy giving Allie help. No confrontation for delicate Allie. Iyanla created that monster and now she is stuck with it.
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wens 24 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Got Milk? Spokesperson"
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01-03-06, 10:51 PM (EST)
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14. "RE: I don't think Rhonda likes T.J." |
I am glad that I am not the only one who feels TJ is not getting the help that she needs. I dont know why Rhonda keeps using the other housemates to do exercises with TJ..ie that connector exercise..the blocks. I do agree that it seems that Rhonda does not like TJ, but was totally in love with Jessica. I also feel sorry for this new housemate Kim getting stuck with Rhonda.And I dont understand why they keep shoving babies down TJ's throats. Why dont they send her to work in a daycare or help out a single parent or something more realistic than pretend babies or a bunch of kids who run through a house. TJ is not phoney and that is what I like about her. I hope eventually she will get real coaching on how to talk to people and to think before she speaks. Currently I think TJ is getting cheated with all the attention on Jessica and Allison and I hope it changes soon. Or maybe if her husband comes and visits and realizes she is not getting any help maybe he will take her home with him. I think I could manage TJ's talking also because she does seem to get it when Jill tells her about how she speaks. I do see an improvement but its in no way because of her life coach. I said it in another post concerning Lisa, but I wonder who TJ would have been by now if she had I.V. as her coach?? I started watching this show about the time when Christina revealed a deep secret to I.V. and Lisa was failing her jewelry assignments. Has there been any other information on TJ that I have missed?? Even with the reruns during these past weeks there really hasnt been too many episodes on TJ except for that day out with Rhonda for lunch.
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Baxtera 923 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Fitness Correspondent"
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01-04-06, 08:15 AM (EST)
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17. "RE: I don't think Rhonda likes T.J." |
Personally I'm not sure either are qualified to handle her without additional specialists to explain what kinds of exercises would be most applicable. Several people have said Dr. Stan would know. Is Dr. Stan a specialist in this area? I ask because I've had several parents send their ADD/ADHD kids to pychologists thinking that one was as good as another only to discover that they had a general understanding but were ineffective because they really didn't specialize in that area of study. He seems to do well with grief and letting go that's probably his strength.
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GoodnightLittleBear 461 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Daytime Soap Guest Star"
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01-04-06, 02:28 PM (EST)
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18. "RE: I don't think Rhonda likes T.J." |
Most people and children with ADD/ADHD are treated by psychiatrists or medical doctors, not psychologists because psychologists cannot prescribe medication. TJ is taking Adderall but Dr Stan could probably help her with some of behavioral problems like impulsiveness. I don't think he is a specialist with ADD/ADHD.
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Baxtera 923 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Fitness Correspondent"
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01-04-06, 02:38 PM (EST)
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19. "RE: I don't think Rhonda likes T.J." |
Sorry I mistyped you are correct it should have been pyschiatrist. That being said there are ones I've had students with who while knowing the word are useless with my students because they have no actual experience in working with the disorder and there are ones who do specialize in working with clients with the disorder. Sometimes the ones who think they know while not really knowing do more damage than the ones who are honest enough to admit it's outside their area of expertise. Based on the little progress he's made with TJ I'd say he's outside his specialty with her and he should find someone who does specialize in that area and have he/she work with TJ.
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lovelucila 55 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Hollywood Squares Square"
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01-10-06, 04:57 PM (EST)
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24. "RE: I don't think Rhonda likes T.J." |
Did you see the way TJ was acting today? Has she learned anything?
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Baxtera 923 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Fitness Correspondent"
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01-10-06, 05:01 PM (EST)
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25. "RE: I don't think Rhonda likes T.J." |
Has she been taught anything by anyone? If she could have done it all on her own she wouldn't have come to the Starting Over house.
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smackermack 93 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Hollywood Squares Square"
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01-10-06, 06:36 PM (EST)
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26. "RE: I don't think Rhonda likes T.J." |
TJ's anxiety level is at an all time high - Two new houseguests, no more Allison and Jessica - She needs to settle down and refocus. Don't speak when anxious comes to mind.
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