Iyanla said to Antonia "I'm giving you a small interior design company. You've got 5 employees, and I'm going to give you a budget to work with. And, I'm hiring your comnpany to re-design the guest room. And all you have to do is work within your budget and re-design the guest room."

how I like it? Mmm hmmm

And you're going to get some really really great help from an interior designer, all right, and you're going to do it as though you're running the company, so you're in charge - you're in charge."

Now to me, the definition of "employee" is that my superior has certain expectations of me, and my expectation is that I will be paid a certain salary in return for meeting the demands of my job. Antonia failed to see this distinction - meaning that if she wanted her "employees" to help her, she was responsible for planning in such a way that she could pay for the materials, the taxes, AND the cost of labour all within her budget.

Of course, we don't know if iyanla told the housemates only to help Antonia if she offered to pay them , or if she did not even tell them about the assignment. It is, however, quite clear that Antonia expected the others to help her without her having to give them anything in return.

And, in her usual fashion, Iyanla gave an assignment phrased in such a way that misinterpretation (and therefore more conflama) was likely! I don't think the housemates owed it to Antonia to help her, especially since she hasn't done a bloody thing for any of them.

So to me, Iyanla gets a little of the blame for her airy-fairy explanations, but Antonia gets most of the blame because she still has a responsibility to herself to do her own work rather than always waiting for (and expecting) everyone else to bail her out while she is ever so busy having a nap!