Hi SR ..don't feel bad, I'm hooked, too. It's a good show (Big Love) and the strangest part of it all is how they manage the sharing process....so far, the 1st wife is having an affair with her own husband (who she's legally married to) and having to hide it from the other wives...it's intriguing to say the least...after one episode where the youngest wife was realllyyy reacting to a sexual encounter with "the husband", you could tell that it was grating on the nerves of the other wives.... N-O W-A-Y could I handle a situation like that..."what's mine is just that...MINE" ....I don't know how they manage to live on speaking terms knowing that they all sleep with the same man....it'd be more like a cat fight in my house...and I'd be the last cat standing or he'd be gone with them. Only the man benefits from an arrangement like this and it's been argued for centuries that men aren't monogamous, however, some men manage, so that can't be totally true (IMO).

I know what it's like to ache for a man with your body and soul, however, I also know that I care more about myself than to allow one to use me to that point...you just have to avoid being alone with him and go out of your way to not have contact with him and if he can't touch "that weak spot that you have for him", eventually, you gain back your strength, self esteem and resistance.

"Niambi can do it" and "she must" because this guy is only looking out for his well being and doesn't give a rat a$$ about either one of these women. I think it was MizJazmine who said that the first lady is probably taking care of him financially and she's absolutely right...the chemistry is good between he and Niambi and that's why he's keeping her around, but I'd be damned if I'd let him use me that way...she's got so much going for her in looks and her athletic endeavors that it makes me question what the hell's going on in her head...get it together girl, let him see what he's missing by dropping out of his life and giving him a dose of reality and if you (either woman) means anything to him...he'll make a choice...then there's the possibility that he has more women than these two afterall, he is a playa, playa.

You're correct SR...whoever gets him in the end will never really be able to trust him and rightfully so...once a cheater (especially of this magnitude)...always a cheater....and as you say:

Even if Niambi had Mr. Situation and ALL of his chemistry and passion on a full-time basis, she would NEVER be able to trust him (according to Dr. Phil, "If he'll do it WITH you, he'll do it TO you.").

Dr. Phil was on cue with this one.

You know, Iyanla said something the other day that struck me (it's been a looooong time since that happened, LOL). She said, "There isn't a woman alive who hasn't been in love with someone who was no good for her".

Yeah...plenty of women have been there and believe me it's not worth it. Niambi needs to know that the "right man" is waiting for her, but she's holding up her journey to meet him because she's letting Mr. Situation block her view...push that man to the side and open yourself up to a new relationship with someone who respects you, girl!

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