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"And now for something completely different..."
Molaholic 9015 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Playboy Centerfold"
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07-17-06, 04:49 PM (EST)
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"And now for something completely different..." |
OK, what with all the siggies (small pout) and quirks and other fluff floating about today, I've got something slightly deeper to toss out to the multitudes.A good friend of mine recently told me that he's been diagnosed with diabetes. He experienced one of those "warning signs" -- a mysterious, bloody blister -- and finally went to the doctor. Actually, he told me some time ago that he was "pre-diabetic" and was taking meds and "supposed to be" following a diet. They've since upped his meds, and he's scheduled for laser surgery for the excessive blood vessels in both eyes. His father had diabetes, and passed away last month from some of the many complications (including a having a leg amputated) associated -- after ignoring medical advice for several years. My friend is showing the same that-very-long-river attitude. He told me that he doesn't take his meds on days he plans to drink, and other such fallderall. He doesn't cook himself, he even asked me just how to cook a hard-boiled egg. I doubt he has even the most rudimentary cooking utensils in his apt. He said "well, I can use a microwave". So, how can I get him to see the light? "Either we are alone in the universe or we are not. The possibility of either situation is mind-boggling." Carl Sagan
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weltek 16936 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Playboy Centerfold"
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07-17-06, 05:08 PM (EST)
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I don't think there's anything you can say or do to help him change his ways. What you CAN do is model good eating/drinking behavior around him. If you go out, try a restaurant where drinks aren't an option & the food is fairly healthy for diabetics. If he comes over to your place, only serve healthier food/drinks. That's my suggestion. Good luck.
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Bobdechemist 3932 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Thong Contest Judge"
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07-17-06, 06:37 PM (EST)
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5. "RE: And now for something completely different..." |
In general, there isn't much you can do for him if he has that weird death wish thing going.However, Mr Bob's uncle has diabetes and after 30 years he joined a diabetes group. They meet once a month, swap recipes, discuss treatments, compare medications etc.. Within a year he had switched medications and had his health in better control than ever. The knowledge base of the group was very useful. He knew what questions to ask his doctor and what symptoms he didn't need to put up with. So for your friend, maybe you could hunt up a support/learning group and give him the information and offer him a ride. He sounds like he might turn you down, but, as a friend, you can try to steer him in the right direction. Repeat once a year and let it drop the rest of the time.
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EMTBGRL 2514 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Survivor-themed Cruise Spokesperson"
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07-17-06, 09:56 PM (EST)
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8. "RE: Direct approach" |
I agree that you can't "change" someone. IT won't work. However, whenever someone shares something personal with me (like their health issues) and we are friends? I flat out ask, "Are you sharing this with me just as a general topic of conversation, or because you want my help, as your friend, because you know I care about you?"Listen to the answer. If your friend says "I'm just making conversation" then, you will alienate this person by pushing the issue. Modeling good behavior is the only thing you can do. If they WANT your help, now they have an open door to ask for it. I had a friend go completely blind from Diabetes. He wishes he had managed his Diabetes to the point where he didn't go blind. However, he STILL drinks alcohol and doesn't take care of himself. He's not gonna change. Alienating him by pointing out what he already KNOWS he's doing wrong, by pointing this out? just gives him one less friend while he's here.
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