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"Cry or Learn?"
blue_islander 6 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "American Cancer Society Spokesperson"
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12-09-03, 02:31 AM (EST)
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"Cry or Learn?" |
The fact is that reality is harsh. It is ironic that so many people are angry because they vicariously identified with Adam and were so frustrated by Melana’s seemingly unreasonable choice. Well, think what it must be like to be Adam- or Dennis, or Craig, or any of the millions of guys like them. Your TV show is their reality. We can gripe about it, and complain about how “unfair” it is, etc, but it does not change anything. It probably will not even change your interactions with people for very long. So, average people- stop crying about it. If you really are intelligent and deep, then sit in front of these TV shows with a pad and pencil and take notes. Learn. Cocky is good. Forget what your mom said. Nice is bad. Who had the better chance, Dennis or Zach? Are you willing to do what it takes to be a winner, or are you just content to feel justified about being a loser? Yeah, I hate it, but it is true. On the other hand, if you don’t have the intestinal fortitude to do what it takes, maybe you deserve what you get. Do you remember her asking Jason if he was gay? He still won. Do you remember her calling him stupid? He still won. Of Zach and Adam and Jason, who seemed to “open up” more? Who told her his feelings the least? Who won?
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blue_islander 6 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "American Cancer Society Spokesperson"
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12-09-03, 03:19 AM (EST)
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2. "RE: Cry or Learn?" |
"Better" by whose standards? Better as judged by idealistic story book "life according to Disney" standards? Hope was gone for that BEFORE this show. It just does NOT work that way. If this show would have kept that type of hope alive, it would have done us a terrible disservice. Cry, bury it, move on. One other thought-- I would also drop the self-defeating idea that "appearance does not define a person" because in a very real way, it does. To a great extent we choose how we appear by our clothes, our fitness, and our demeanor. Choose how you want to appear and then execute a plan. If you can not (or will not) do this, then it says something about the "real you".
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DaUnfan 43 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Beauty Pageant Celebrity Judge"
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12-09-03, 03:44 AM (EST)
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4. "RE: Cry or Learn?" |
Better is better; it's an improvement. You can judge good and bad "by idealistic story book standards" but not "better"."Hope was gone<...>" is a very cynical outlook. If that gets you through the day, then you can choose to live that way. But keep in mind, good things happen to good people too. Appearance absolutely does not define a person. Of course we all make judgements about people by their appearance, but how often are we wrong about the judgements we make. I don't know about you, but I find myself reversing my opinions regularly. A professional looking man in an expensive suit can be a real asshole. The guy in the t-shirt and jeans may be the one who helps you push your broken down car off the road. The "real me" may very well be different from the one you SEE - once you get to know me...
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blue_islander 6 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "American Cancer Society Spokesperson"
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12-09-03, 04:08 AM (EST)
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6. "RE: Cry or Learn?" |
Cynical? Perhaps. But I really think I am pragmatic. Don't get me wrong, I feel it. I hate that reality does this to Adams and Dennises. But taking about "should" and trying to cast the world into our notion of fair does nothing to address the fact that lions EAT lambs. Our world is Darwinian. The strong survive, flourish, and are happy. If you really want to help someone (including yourself) do not join them in hand-wringing about the unfairness of it all. Learn the game. Adapt, evolve. Take responsibility and teach them to do the same. The asshole in the suit gets the job and Melana. The nice guy in the T-shirt gets mud all over his jeans. Maybe Adam will find someone better. Maybe he will be more fulfilled in the long run. If not, maybe he will get what he really deserves in the afterlife. Maybe. We SO want the good to win we always make excuses when it does not. What we KNOW is that it was him sitting in the bus going home, and Jason with Melana.
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Chris 20 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Got Milk? Spokesperson"
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12-09-03, 04:19 AM (EST)
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7. "RE: Cry or Learn?" |
agreed
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Conan O Bryan 21 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Got Milk? Spokesperson"
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12-09-03, 03:31 AM (EST)
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3. "RE: Cry or Learn?" |
Wow! I'm thrilled...Jason "the boy who lives with his parents and has virtually no interests or hobbies" wins Melana "the woman who makes her living off her looks", a match made in heaven.
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Buratino 1 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "American Cancer Society Spokesperson"
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12-09-03, 02:38 PM (EST)
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13. "RE: Cry or Learn?" |
There is a lesson to learn from that show. Here are some thoughts.1) So-called “reality shows” are not really good reflections on real life since all of the participants have their reasons for being on the national TV (even good-natured Adam had some motives for trying to pick a date in front of the audience of millions and not in the real “anonymous” world). However, show might serve as a model of what might happen in real life. 2) What is the “right” outcome? Melena’s goal was to get an exposure not to get married – people with high level of attachment/ commitment actually were at disadvantage. Necessarily Melena was attracted to “dating” type of guys – Zack, Jason, “Joe Millionaire”. Jason level of commitment (i.e. let’s date and get to know each other) was much more to her liking than Adam’s almost proposing to her on the spot. 3) As far as actual attraction to certain men, Melena, like most women, is attracted by not just looks but by the level of confidence (i.e. Zack was not the Apollo, but he was the most confident of the Average Joe’s bunch). Adam was funny, but goofy guy with self-depreciating sense of humor that you want to have as your friend (he didn't initiate intimate contact - it was SHE who started kissing him most of the time). 4) All in all I would say that show’s outcome is not a “disappointment”, but an accurate reflection of what is the most probable in real life.
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