>Jill did not send her mother
>a christmas card. Other
>than Jill, no one knows
>what the reason for that
>is...personally, I think it was
>an oversight based on being
>in new territory (first time
>they haven't spent Christmas together).
>
>
>This, however, does not mean that
>she didn't call her mother
>or that she hadn't talked
>to her since then.
>IMO there is a difference
>between messing up and overlooking
>what might be considered common
>courtesy and "ignoring" her mother.
>
>
>Remember that just because you didn't
>see it doesn't mean it
>didn't happen. The conversation
>with her mother today was
>a) much longer than what
>you saw and b) one
>of MANY conversations along the
>path to improving her relationship
>with her mother. There
>were many more acknowledgments and
>levels of ownership from Jill
>that for whatever reason did
>not make the show.
>
>Yes I know Jill. Say what
>you will about her I
>can tell you that she
>has worked very hard at
>strengthening the relationship with both
>her mother and her father.
> I can not imagine
>trying to balance those relationships
>at this stage in her
>life...how do you build a
>relationship with a man you
>never thought you'd know?
>How do you do this
>without your mother feeling abandoned
>and betrayed? And how
>do you negotiate all of
>this while trying to grow
>your newfound "self-hood." Probably
>most significant is how do
>you wrap your brain around
>being a daughter with a
>present father when you've never
>had that experience?
>
>Has she had some mis-steps?
>Yes. Will there be
>more? Probably. I,
>for one, think it takes
>courage to explore these things
>period...much less without the world
>watching.
>
>All of this to say, bash
>her if you must for
>her inconsideration, oversight or whatever,
>but know the facts.
>She didn't send a christmas
>card. Everything else is
>speculation, rumor and untrue.

And herein lies the problem with what the show has digressed to. The "editing" and some of the statements made made it clear to the viewers that Jill did not a) send her Mom an xmas card, b) did not call her on xmas, and c) I swear IV said that Jill had not even spoken with her Mother since before xmas, hence IV arbitrating their phone call.

I mean honestly, there was no other conclusion for the viewers to come to so if your information is correct, it is just plain wrong and totally misleading for the producers of SO to present the story otherwise.

You know perhaps the real "project" they should all conglomerate on is after their vow of silence contracts have ended, publish a "Behind the Scenes: The Real Stories of Starting Over".