I feel that there is an important aspect of Mr. Situation entagled with her that is being absolutely and completely evaded.
I feel for Niambi and her lack of self esteem and yes, she should take care of herself and learn to love herself, however can you really ever love yourself knowing you are destroying another person's life? I don't mean Mr. Situation, I am talking about the women in his life before Niambi. Why is the fact that this person's selfesteem and happiness is being robbed and that Niambi is a direct party to that destruction not being addressed. How about all the hundreds of men and women's fears that it can happen to me being confirmed, (My husband, boyfriend, wife, girlfriend could be having a long term "so-called love affair" behind my back.) If she cannot end this relationship for herself or the other girl's wellbeing and sanity and she really loves him, wouldn't she end it for him. I really feel like there is a whole lot of walls up, maybe unconsciously or intentionally, however there are definitely pieces missing. How do you live 33 years and remain that incredibly confused and slow to realize the pain surrounding you especially if it is evident in your own life and others as a direct result of your own actions.
I'm not trying to be harsh just real about what seems to be an epidimic in this and others parts of the world. The reality is that when you step into an intimate relationship and destroy it you are destroying lives, in some cases lives end up taken either by themselves or the partner or even the homebreaker themselves. Think before you act and if you find you've already began the destruction of another person or person's, stop!stop!stop! and runnnnnnnnnnn the other way. We know she can run, isn't it interesting that she has decided to stop?!!