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08-03-06, 09:28 AM (EST)
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"Benji = closet gay?"
I have heard rumors from insiders of the ball room world that Benji is gay! has anyone else heard this?

Also since Iím on the topic who else is Gay on the show?

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  Subject     Author     Message Date     ID  
 RE: Benji = closet gay? syren 08-03-06 1
   RE: Benji = closet gay? emydi 08-03-06 2
       RE: Benji = closet gay? Icancook75 08-03-06 3
           RE: Benji = closet gay? singer 08-03-06 4
 RE: Benji = closet gay? Sagebrush Dan 08-03-06 5
   RE: Benji = closet gay? qwertypie 08-03-06 7
 RE: Benji = closet gay? arkiegrl 08-03-06 6
   RE: Benji = closet gay? reealiteefan 08-06-06 22
       RE: Benji = closet gay? Sagebrush Dan 08-06-06 23
 RE: Benji = closet gay? CattyChat 08-03-06 8
   RE: Benji = closet gay? Tonya_Harding 08-04-06 9
       RE: Benji = closet gay? tribephyl 08-04-06 10
           RE: Benji = closet gay? Tonya_Harding 08-04-06 11
 Circling the wagons Sagebrush Dan 08-04-06 12
   RE: Circling the wagons Snidget 08-04-06 13
   RE: Circling the wagons BOYmeetsREALITY 08-04-06 14
       RE: Circling the wagons Sagebrush Dan 08-04-06 15
 RE: Benji = closet gay? mtopaz 08-04-06 16
   RE: Benji = closet gay? Sagebrush Dan 08-04-06 17
       RE: Benji = closet gay? mtopaz 08-05-06 18
           RE: Benji = closet gay? Sagebrush Dan 08-05-06 19
 RE: Benji = closet gay? justcurlz 08-05-06 20
   RE: Benji = closet gay? Sagebrush Dan 08-05-06 21
 RE: Benji = closet gay? Tahj 08-09-06 24
   RE: Benji = closet gay? Sagebrush Dan 08-09-06 25
   RE: Benji = closet gay? EMTBGRL 08-10-06 27
 RE: Benji = closet gay? ronniemiller 08-09-06 26
   tribe of me tribephyl 08-10-06 28
 Locking Bebo 08-10-06 29

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syren 5418 desperate attention whore postings
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08-03-06, 11:24 AM (EST)
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1. "RE: Benji = closet gay?"
I'm so glad that the insiders of the ball room think he's happy.


Ohhh you mean that kind of gay...so what. He's a great dancer, all of them at this point are.

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08-03-06, 11:36 AM (EST)
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2. "RE: Benji = closet gay?"


ditto...shouldn't you be delivering something right about now?
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08-03-06, 11:51 AM (EST)
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3. "RE: Benji = closet gay?"
umm.. Travis is pretty obvious. We've even seen his bf on camera in the crowd earlier in the season.

I don't know about Benji or the others, and don't really care.
:p

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08-03-06, 01:22 PM (EST)
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4. "RE: Benji = closet gay?"
ITA, icancook75.

I don't care what these folks do in their private lives. I do care that they are excellent dancers and artists. I love the show.

--Singer

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08-03-06, 02:54 PM (EST)
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5. "RE: Benji = closet gay?"
I have never wanted to flame a poster until now. Instead, I will hit the alert button and let the mods deal with this.


One of the Tribe

It wasn't the butt of a mule. I was kissing a human being with a soul.
-Heath Ledger on his famous liplock with Jake Gyllenhaal

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08-03-06, 04:20 PM (EST)
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7. "RE: Benji = closet gay?"
Maybe it is just idle curiousity that the question is being posted. The passion and emotion that Travis is able to convey with Heidi during their routines and Allison during her farewell dance set me back on my heels and leave me awestruck.



But, the again, I will admit that I am pretty dense about people's intentions.

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08-03-06, 03:59 PM (EST)
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6. "RE: Benji = closet gay?"
What difference does that make?
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08-06-06, 02:51 PM (EST)
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22. "RE: Benji = closet gay?"
Absolutely none. But as Samantha Jones, PR whiz on Sex and the City, says: once the gay rumors begin, it means you're on your way to being a star.

And it could be the old stereotype that most male dancers, if they are petite in build or stature must be gay. It could be why the shirt-ripper (can't think of his name -- which is telling) began to play up his almost Chippendale's appeal to the squealing women in the audience.

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08-06-06, 09:57 PM (EST)
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23. "RE: Benji = closet gay?"
it was Dmitry. Yeah, I figured he was trying to steal the Benji vote (or the gay vote )


One of the Tribe

It wasn't the butt of a mule. I was kissing a human being with a soul.
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08-03-06, 04:52 PM (EST)
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8. "RE: Benji = closet gay?"
I have heard rumors from insiders of the ball room world that Benji is gay! has anyone else heard this?

Also since Iím on the topic who else is Gay on the show?

Is this a scientific survey? Or just curious small minds want to know? Lastly, does sexual orientation make any difference?


I'm a fan of HAPPY feet!!!!

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08-04-06, 02:35 AM (EST)
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9. "RE: Benji = closet gay?"
I am just curious, just as unimportant as it is, it should not be such a big deal that I would ask. I was in no way rude or putting down the dancers. Being Gay is not what it used to be it is much more common and much more accepted, especially in the dancing world. I find it odd that anyone would object to this when the judges themselves have made comments which I would deem inappropriate in relation to a dancers possible sexual preference, does anyone remember Mary Murphy telling Travis he was not Masculine enough?

Plus this is reality TV for Gods sake, we should be allowed to gossip.

I thought Travis had something going on with Allison!?!?!?!

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08-04-06, 04:20 AM (EST)
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10. "RE: Benji = closet gay?"
LAST EDITED ON 08-04-06 AT 04:26 AM (EST)

I am just curious, just as unimportant as it is, it should not be such a big deal that I would ask. I was in no way rude or putting down the dancers.

No you weren't putting down the dancers per se, but your sentence structure obviously left a lot of fellow posters with a bad taste in their mouth. As if your question was based in 1. misinformation and 2. with unapologetic demeanor.

Being Gay is not what it used to be it is much more common and much more accepted, especially in the dancing world.

True. Which is why your question seemed even more irrelevent.
If it's so accepted why would it matter?


I find it odd that anyone would object to this when the judges themselves have made comments which I would deem inappropriate in relation to a dancers possible sexual preference, does anyone remember Mary Murphy telling Travis he was not Masculine enough?

Because of the fact that Mary was not talking about his sexuality.
She was talking about his partnership/leadership skills.
Masculinity is something that commonly refers to the style with which the "males" lead their "female" dancing partners.

Masculinity has nothing to do with being or not being gay.

As you've mentioned, "Being Gay" is much more common. (Which is a falacy. It's just that there are less bigots around now.)
If this were true, the whole topic of his sexuality (Which is none of anyone's business.) wouldn't have even been brought up.

Who really cares what Benji does in his own bedroom when we're here to judge his dancing?


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08-04-06, 05:42 AM (EST)
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11. "RE: Benji = closet gay?"
I am not judging his sexuality, nor am I judging him based on it.

Getting back on topic, who was Travis boyfriend?!?!?! Was it the guy sitting next to his mom on that one episode where he teared up a little.

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08-04-06, 02:44 PM (EST)
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12. "Circling the wagons"
T.H. and others new to the boards....

In case you're wondering why we're circling the wagons here on the gay issue....
Most of us are battle-scarred veterans of the gay wars on Off Topic, so we tend to come out fighting when the subject comes up. Your motives may have been in fun, and whether or not I agree with your motives is not the point, but I thought I'd give you a reasonable explanation.
I acted hastily, and I believe I was wrong to do so.

One way or another, welcome to the boards.


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08-04-06, 03:57 PM (EST)
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13. "RE: Circling the wagons"
*nods* all too often peeps seem to post about gay-ness because they want to start something, not because they are merely curious.
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08-04-06, 04:27 PM (EST)
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14. "RE: Circling the wagons"
I applaud you, DAN!

Very classy reply!

P.S. I'd tell you all if I was a closeted gay too...

but then I wouldn't be anymore! D'OH!!!!!!!


HAHAHA!

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08-04-06, 04:49 PM (EST)
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15. "RE: Circling the wagons"

Welcome to the boards.


Handcrafted by RollDdice

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08-04-06, 08:43 PM (EST)
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16. "RE: Benji = closet gay?"
And on a lighter note, if Benji is a closeted gay, I wish he'd come out of my closet some night! And yes, I mean that in a really shameful Mrs. Robinson kind of way y'all!


Sig pic by JSlice

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08-04-06, 09:22 PM (EST)
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17. "RE: Benji = closet gay?"
Remember to fill us in on the details.


One of the Tribe

Me? I'd go for either Natalie or Donyelle. Delicious eyes!

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08-05-06, 00:36 AM (EST)
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18. "RE: Benji = closet gay?"
Details? A lady doesn't kiss and tell.

So naturally, I won't leave even the slighest detail out!


Sig pic by JSlice

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08-05-06, 00:59 AM (EST)
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19. "RE: Benji = closet gay?"
That "yummy" in your siggie ain't for nothin'! Yummy details.


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08-05-06, 12:49 PM (EST)
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20. "RE: Benji = closet gay?"
I myself could careless if he is or isnt that man has major talent... wish i had some of it...
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08-05-06, 05:07 PM (EST)
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21. "RE: Benji = closet gay?"
Welcome to the boards, justcurlz. Yeah, I'd like some of that talent, too. He is absolutely amazing to watch.


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08-09-06, 11:40 AM (EST)
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24. "RE: Benji = closet gay?"
Um, yoo hoo, hello....this is the dancing world. Rather than asking who is gay, the real question should be who isn't.



Tribe rocked my sig!

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08-09-06, 08:35 PM (EST)
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25. "RE: Benji = closet gay?"
Ginger Rogers.


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08-10-06, 01:25 AM (EST)
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27. "RE: Benji = closet gay?"
>Um, yoo hoo, hello....this is the
>dancing world. Rather than
>asking who is gay, the
>real question should be who
>isn't.

*waves at Tahj!* How you doin'?

I have a brother that makes a living as a professional musician. People have asked me, his sister, about his sexual orientation because of his profession. It isn't the PC police. It's a stupid question. I don't want to think about my BROTHER's sex life! (regardless of WHAT it is!) Saying that to others gets the "Well, I was just CURIOUS" response, too. My response to that? It's not your business unless you're the one sleeping with them (or wanting to)

But there DOES seem to be a prevalence of assumptions about sexual orientation in "The Arts." It's also an intrusive question. I don't walk around asking "What do you think is his/her net worth?" or listing other people's health histories. That's none of my business, either. And, people don't respond with "Why are you getting your panties in a bunch because I asked what you MAKE for a living?" --It's the same.

We aren't asking, "So, who up there do you think is a virgin?" because it's also a private matter, and 100% irrelevant to them being dancers! However, we automatically see how inappropriate "Do you think he/she is a virgin?" question would be. (Don't we?) --This is no different.

And, the question DOES come across as ::nudge, nudge, do you think he/she IS?:: you know...gay? ---which is where the reaction came from...

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08-09-06, 09:48 PM (EST)
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26. "RE: Benji = closet gay?"
I don't know why all you folks have gotten your panties in such knots. Asking if an effeminate seeming man is gay is as common now as asking your significant other if she finds a man attractive. It is just human curiosity. I doubt the poster asked the question to some how discourage people from liking him or that they are some sort of homophobe. Also stage wagon boy you mention the tribe. Are you talking about the tribe of Israel? I am a member of that tribe and I always want to know who else is. I just found out that Ryan Star from Rockstar was also a member of my tribe. I gave me more of a connection to him and the show even though Storm is my favorite. I am not gay but I like to think that my gaydar is as good as my jewdar and I don't know why but I asked my wife if she thought benji was gay. Maybe I want to set him up with my gay cousin in case I run into him during the top tour..Who knows? But I hope the originator of this question doesn't let themselves get too intimated by the PC police on this board. And if I find out if he or anyone else on the show it gay I will let you know. Benji is my favorite along with his cousin although I think the best person for celine would be Travis. I also think my cousin would be more into him than Benji. I miss Alyson so much. I had a major crush on her but when I found out she was only 18 boy did I feel like a dirty old man at 38. If anyone wants to know who in the industry (movies, music) is Jewish let me know and I will let you know. I am pretty sure there wasn't a single Jew in the top 20. I thought Natalie might be till I saw her cross. I think Benji is Mormon and if he is gay that is very tough as I know more closeted Mormons than almost any other religion. Catholic is a close 2nd. Tons of Jews that are out.
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08-10-06, 07:27 AM (EST)
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28. "tribe of me"
Actually, the tribe that Dan is referring to is me, tribe.

I designed his siggie. He's just giving me a shout out. (Which, by the way, dan. You do not have to do. S'not obligatory.)


The rest? enh... But congrats on the gaydar thing. First straight guy I've known to have gaydar. Or is there something you're not telling us?

Welcome aboard!

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08-10-06, 07:55 AM (EST)
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29. "Locking"
Yet again, the "is so-and-so gay" game appears on the forums. I'm locking this one, because like so many others before it, this thread just opens up a can of worms to get people arguing about homosexuality instead of discussing the show.

Our guidelines say help prevent forest fires. One way to do so is to stop having discussions like this.

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