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sokit2memama 1 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "American Cancer Society Spokesperson" 10-21-05, 02:19 PM (EST) ""Be a Great Day"" LAST EDITED ON 10-21-05 AT 02:21 PM (EST) To Iyanla, Help! I've watched the show since the middle of the second season ... I am continuing to learn so much more about myself and the thought processes that still play out through my actions and reactions. I need to know what it truly means to "be a great day", and how can I do it?! Thanks, Mimi   Top

Subject     Author     Message Date     ID    RE: "Be a Great Day" GreenSideUp 10-21-05 1  RE: "Be a Great Day" LRoyce 10-21-05 2    RE: "Be a Great Day" Susie Q 10-22-05 3        RE: "Be a Great Day" LRoyce 10-23-05 6    RE: "Be a Great Day" Devlynne 10-23-05 4        RE: "Be a Great Day" LRoyce 10-23-05 5

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GreenSideUp 274 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Network TV Show Guest Star" 10-21-05, 02:22 PM (EST) 1. "RE: "Be a Great Day"" Here's a link to her stuff http://www.innervisionsworldwide.com/products.htm   Top

LRoyce 35 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Beauty Pageant Celebrity Judge" 10-21-05, 11:49 PM (EST) 2. "RE: "Be a Great Day"" I'm not a trained counselor like Iyanla but I had a wonderful experience a number of years ago that directly relates to your question. I had been working too hard and feeling very stressed. One of the grounds caretakers where I worked called out as a passed by, "How are you?" I answered, "I am having a terrible day." He looked very confused and disappointed. "I am shocked," he said, "I thought you knew, you make the day, the day don't make you." I have never gotten over those simple and profound words. whenever I think "I am having a bad day," I remember him and his words and I take charge of the day and myself again. This also was said by Iyanla in an earlier episode when Lisa was in tears and said she felt hopeless. Iyanla said, "It's just a feeling; pick another one." It is all the same - you are in charge of your feelings, your attitude and only you can be the great day for yourself. I wish I could say this better but I hope it helps.   Top

Susie Q 5 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "American Cancer Society Spokesperson" 10-22-05, 01:27 AM (EST) 3. "RE: "Be a Great Day"" LRoyce, you gave an excellent explanation. I've heard Rhonda use the term "Have a fearless Day" which I assume refers to her book "Fearless Living." I love the quote you shared. "You make the day, the day don't make you." What a profound thing for that man to say. I will remember that. Thanks for sharing it. Sue   Top

LRoyce 35 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Beauty Pageant Celebrity Judge" 10-23-05, 09:48 AM (EST) 6. "RE: "Be a Great Day"" I should have responded to your thanks earlier; I am sorry I overlooked it in racing through this site. Yes, that man was profound and he was by his own nature. I got to know him fairly well after that moment and he only had a third-grade education. But he managed to educate the people around him through his joy and his eagerness to learn, and his willingness to share. Most of us have lost that. I don't know about your experience but I have discovered that whatever I share, I reinforce. (It's the other side of the Golden Rule - what I do for others I also do for myself.) So everything that comes out of us goes back in with even more force. Knowing this makes you want to share every good thing you can and to learn to button your lip when angry until you can express it in constructive terms. If that sounds like I can do that at all times, it is a lie. I am getting better at it every day - making the day and me a little kinder and a little sweeter.   Top

Devlynne 154 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Blistex Spokesperson" 10-23-05, 07:14 AM (EST) 4. "RE: "Be a Great Day"" LRoyce, I've heard that you choose your feelings etc all before, but I've never seen it applied in such a simple and direct way. It is one thing to try and intellectualize something and another to have it truly resonate with you. With it put this way I finally get it in a way that I wasn’t able to before. Thank you for sharing this story with us here!   Top

LRoyce 35 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Beauty Pageant Celebrity Judge" 10-23-05, 08:39 AM (EST) 5. "RE: "Be a Great Day"" Thank you for expressing your reaction. It doesn't matter if others 'get' what we offer but it is certainly a wonderful feeling of being useful when they do. And too often lately nobody says anything if you hold a door, give up your seat, and all that stuff. We either think we deserve what we are given or we are only interested in what we are doing and we ignore all others. Also, there is a wonderful saying that gratitude does even more for the one giving it than the one receiving it - feeling grateful opens the heart. I know exactly what you mean about intellectualizing. All my life I KNEW so much about so many things but had no idea that they were not part of me but only part of my mental equipment. Thus I could talk about something very well but had never experienced it. A very clever friend acted as a counselor for me by asking me over and over "how does that make you feel?" Finally, after saying "I don't know" dozens of times, she said, "I know you don't know how you feel about it; I want YOU to know you don't know how you feel !" At that point, I had been crying from frustration and confusion. I stopped crying immediately and asked, "Do you mean that other people know how they feel?" That moment was the beginning of my awakening to the fact that I was living behind a glass wall, the beginning of using what I carried in my intellect. I am still far from dealing with all the anger I swallowed as a child. Part of me is afraid somehow, I guess, but I could never go on Starting Over - first I am almost 70 and second I could not subject my family to that kind of invasion of privacy. Since I am a student of reincarnation and karma, I know I will have to continue to deal with my problems with or without professional life coaches, although we amatuers are often enough. So I try to deal with today knowing it is the seed of tomorrow and that at all times, good/bad/indifferent, I make my day, I make my choices, I make my world and if I am stuck, at least I can have the right attitude and maybe even laugh at my foolish predicament.   Top

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