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""Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes"
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""Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
This show could be really great but the psycho-babble is off the chart, and most of it seems to be driven by Iyanla (sp?).. Rhonda seems just a tiny bit more real, IMHO..
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2. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
LAST EDITED ON 01-02-06 AT 05:47 PM (EST)Before one gets too enamoured with the life coaches and their philosophy, one should do a little research. Read some of the life coach related posts on these forums for leads, go to the websites of SO, Rhonda, Fearless Living, Univ of Santa Monica, www.agapelive.com, probably Iyanla has a website also. There are big differences between being a life coach and a professional psychologist or shrink. Maybe it's just a shortcut to bigger money. Why become a psychologist like Dr. Stan Katz, or a shrink (that requires about a decade of schooling), when in just 10 sessions a year for a year or two you can be an LC and make much more money faster). Iyanla got her "Master's" in Spiritual Psychology at Univ of Santa Monica, and that's where Allison will go to learn her life coaching. Check out the tuition rates! Yes, many of the exercises make you want to gag. The demeaning things they put these people through. Remind you at all of a mental Fear Factor? Yet there are things that occur on the show that DO help viewers, and there are problems that people can relate to. It has potential, but maybe is getting diverted in the search for Daytime Emmy awards like last year. The first season seemed to be useful. This season is sort of a joke. What comes up in these forums is sort of like a group barf.
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12-30-05, 02:36 PM (EST)
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3. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
It's very easy to be negative, to think negatively, to critisize others without knowing the whole story, to judge when we ourselves do not want to be judged-- I think it takes effort to speak something different about life, about a situation, and about a desire. The Bible states that Life and death are in the power of the tongue- Whatever you speak out of your mouth, you will create-- So when Iyanla says things like Be a great day.
She's reminding us all that life is what we make it-- All of the things she says are just a reminder that we are in control of our thoughts and behaviors....
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69. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
LAST EDITED ON 02-06-06 AT 07:51 PM (EST)>It's very easy to be negative,
>to think negatively, to critisize
>others without knowing the whole
>story, to judge when we
>ourselves do not want to
>be judged-- I think it
>takes effort to speak something
>different about life, about a
>situation, and about a desire.
>The Bible states that Life
>and death are in the
>power of the tongue- Whatever
>you speak out of your
>mouth, you will create-- So
>when Iyanla says things like
>Be a great day.
>She's reminding us all that life
>is what we make it--
>All of the things she
>says are just a reminder
>that we are in control
>of our thoughts and behaviors....
>
Based on that rationale it would have taken just one person in, let's say, New Orleans, to wake up with a positive thought in their head and voice a positive vibe and all then would have been a positively wonderful day.......now considering Hurricane Katrina, and the devastation it caused, I can only conclude that Iyanla's so-called power of suggestion (so to speak) is just a bunch of mumbo-jumbo considering that there had to be at least ONE person in New Orleans, on the day the hurricane hit, that would have definitely been in positive frame of mind and thus helped to avert the devastation caused by the hurricane.
We can all think all the positive thoughts, speak all the positive words, feel all the positive feelings we want - but that is NOT going to change the course of history - as the saying goes SH!t Happens and all the power of positive thinking in the world aint gonna change it. JMHO
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02-21-06, 01:13 PM (EST)
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75. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
I just want to add, that I happen to think that the life coaches are very good at what they do I would do just about anything to get some feedback on my life issues from Rhonda or Iylana or even Dr Stan, some people may not agree with there antics but I'm one who happens to think that they do alot more good than harm.
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01-12-06, 11:07 PM (EST)
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49. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
Where is eveyone getting this information that Allison is going to school to become a life coach? Have I Missed something at here graduation?
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02-22-06, 11:09 AM (EST)
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76. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
And don't forget to check the Univ of Santa Monica's "accreditation". Accredited by whom?
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12-30-05, 11:17 PM (EST)
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12. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
I kinda like the drama...otherwise it would be a reality show...ooppss!Honestly, I take it as it is. Neither is a 'real' psychologist but they do come up with some interesting stuff. I think the 'sensational' stuff is because they have to pay the bills, but also, some folks need a real VISUAL wake up call (ex. baby cloths, blinders, leaky bucket, whatever). May seem silly but if it lights the way, who cares? And make no mistake, these ladies no exactly what they're in for. How many (Jessica) end up staying? You can book any of them to speak and they all end up with their own websites...this is a 'wannabe star maker', with a mental twist instead of eating bug soup....
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12-30-05, 05:22 PM (EST)
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6. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
Just started posting here today, but I've watched the show off and on since the first house. I agree with what people have said about there being too much psychobabble. It also bothers me that the life coaches will send the women to places like "spiritual healers" and "spiritual psychologists" -- that kinda worries me. But overall I have to admit this is a show that grows on ya. I especially like to tape it via DVR and then watch it early in the morning when I'm not really awake. Coffee helps me tolerate the psychobabble 
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01-01-06, 09:48 PM (EST)
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30. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
what things did they forget? Just curious..can't remember but would love to have noticed that too..Thx
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66. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
Ya, but I think she is a bit busy these days.
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12-30-05, 05:42 PM (EST)
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8. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
I thought Rhonda was pretty good with TJ when they were discussing the rape. But the deli???? And she should have removed the earplugs and sunglasses from TJ. That type of discussion would have been better somewhere less public, maybe? You know Rhonda knows the background on these ladies from their applications...
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12-30-05, 10:59 PM (EST)
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10. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
OklaBlue I thought it was too public of a place to discuss the rapes, how bizarre. TJ was muzzled tho and maybe didn' notice her surroundings. I wonder if the deli was closed to the public, would have to be to set up the lights and camera. Maybe the reason Rhonda had such a heavy session out of the house was to protect TJ from the jackals. and not steal any of someones thunder.
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01-01-06, 09:51 PM (EST)
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31. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
Interesting..hadn't thought about the fact that Rhonda probly knew about her rape since application..and yes I do agree once they started talking about that it seemed inhumane to keep the glasses and earplugs on during..but now that you mention it the lesson and the discussion were so at the same time..it was meant to remind her of how horrible it was that she didn't feel seen or heard..hmmmm?
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9. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
I thought it was a great exercise but TJ should not have been the one to wear the blinders. Rhonda should have had the other HG wear them. They collectively just don't get TJ. maybe they would be able to develop a little bit of emphathy. that is what is lacking in this group of women. NO EMPATHY. TJ had loads maybe too much because of her handicaps. my daughter was like this, epelepy and the medication to treat it while she was growing up. She was far more sensitive and emphathetic than her classmates. This group is terrifically immature. they all need to be regressed to the point they were stunted and go from there. oh, that is what all the exercises are for.
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01-01-06, 10:51 AM (EST)
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21. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
LAST EDITED ON 01-13-06 AT 12:41 PM (EST)Happy New Year Soupy! I'm not pushing my beliefs either, just stating them, where I stand. And where I will stay. Everybody has to pick their own path. I certainly will never worship any human or celebrity like a god either. Most of them are flaky. I hate the way they inject themselves into politics, like they are important and should influence us just because they are "stars", have a lot of money, etc. The sad thing is that because they are famous, or infamous, they do get "airtime", they get publicity, and then the millions of sheep who can't think for themselves out there follow, because of the fame. Maybe winning the Emmy award blew up their heads in trying to get another. But trying to work with TJ, who has medical problems, ADD, and is a regular gal with a husband she's happy with, etc., makes me "wanna SMACK" somebody.
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01-02-06, 10:22 PM (EST)
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38. "RE: Each of us a star . . . or a DAW" |
Awwww...but is it worth a couple thousand?
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01-01-06, 10:09 PM (EST)
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34. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
I agree that self is focused on more than spirituality..but we cannot expect tv (in general) to be able to address this as much as it should be. I do believe IV is a spiritual woman..the show cannot demonstrate this part of her too much or it's ratings would be affected..sad but I believe even as little as she says could indeed lead someone to God without all the words being said.
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52. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
As a non-Christian who likes IV, I find that her words on SO, or at least how she chooses to express them (or how they are edited), transcend any particular religion.It's one of the problems I have with some of the other threads bashing on the "tell it to the Universe" aspect. That's not about telling the Universe and then sitting on your butt and doing nothing. But in the telling you focus yourself and let yourself know what you need so that you can get off your butt and go out and get it. As for Jesus not whining and serving others, I feel that focusing on oneself doesn't have to be a selfish thing. We can't really help or serve others if we have no foundation or center. And another thing perhaps we should remember: isn't SO supposedly for the women most in need of help? (Yes, we know the politics of making a tv show that will stay on the air enter into it, but ...) I was reading the Allison thread and although I can understand the points made (and it has made me view her differently), at the end of it I realize that if she were better than she is, perhaps someone else would have been on the show instead of her. In other words, it is the nature of the show that our HG will be the more whinier, selfish, etc. (Perhaps there is a big NC market pull? I'm from NC and am constantly surprised by the percentage of NC women who are getting on the show!) So, anyway, I admit that IV and her catch phrases don't bother me like they do some people. But I've already heard and used such phrases as tools in my spiritual practices to focus and manifest my goals into reality. So I see them less as psychobabble and more as ways of getting out of our own ways. I don't see them as "leading people to God" but do feel that spiritual people of all stripes will pick up on them. On a side note, what become of the LC whom IV replaced? (Her name was like Rhonda but slightly different. I always was amused that their names were so close.) >I agree that self is focused
>on more than spirituality..but we
>cannot expect tv (in general)
>to be able to address
>this as much as it
>should be. I do
>believe IV is a spiritual
>woman..the show cannot demonstrate this
>part of her too much
>or it's ratings would be
>affected..sad but I believe even
>as little as she says
>could indeed lead someone to
>God without all the words
>being said.
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12-31-05, 01:22 AM (EST)
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14. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
LAST EDITED ON 01-02-06 AT 00:14 AM (EST)(Regarding references for the church mentioned above) FROM THE AGAPE WEBSITE: "Is Agape Christian? And what about the Bible and Jesus? No, and yes. Yes, some Agape members are Christian, and their personal encounter with the spirit of Jesus as an embodiment of the Christ Consciousness richly informs their spiritual lives. No, if by Christian you mean the acceptance of Jesus as the only savior and Christianity as the only path to God and eternal salvation. Yes, in the sense that New Thought- Ancient Wisdom history includes the Gnostic teachings of the earliest Christian mystical sects, as well as the founders of the uniquely American New Thought Movement including Emmanuel Swedenborg, Ernest Holmes, Howard Thurman, and transcendentalists such as Ralph Waldo Emerson and others. " (end quote)
=========================================================== Here is some Iyanla info and links you may want to look into if interested. Honorary doctor of divinity degree from the Theological Seminary in Atlanta, Georgia.
http://www.eomega.org/omega/faculty/viewProfile/a71edaf67245af7d35051ff29d36eae2 Iyanla Vanzant, a Yoruba priestess, offers brief and insightful pearls of wisdom that help to clear one's mind, and provide something positive on which to focus throughout the day.
http://www.alibris.com/search/books/author/Vanzant,%20Iyanla Ms. Vanzant appears to have responded to a long-felt call to give herself over to Yoruban culture as an alternative for dealing with life.
http://www.queenhyte.com/dobb/dobb_archives/dobb_98/june-98.htm A Yoruba priestess and ordained minister, Iyanla was catapulted to fame when Oprah Winfrey chose one of her books, Yesterday, I Cried, (Simon & Schuster), as an Oprah Book Club selection.
http://www.whitefireweb.com/women_detail.php?woman_id=47 The Yoruba claim that they have 401 deities; in truth, there are more than these.
http://www.uiowa.edu/~africart/toc/people/Yoruba.html
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12-31-05, 07:11 PM (EST)
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17. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
Mirage - that would have been an excellent lesson to enable the group to be more understanding of what TJ has been going through. However, the LC focus on self would require that TJ do it. To have the other women do it would have meant teaching them to empathize with TJ, and that would be focusing on some other, not their selves.
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01-01-06, 09:56 PM (EST)
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32. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
I agree the HM's seem to lack empathy but I myself have had my problems merely interacting with other women..can you imagine being in that house...aaahhhhh
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12-31-05, 02:20 AM (EST)
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15. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
I have many of the same gripes that have already been mentioned, but one of the things that makes me so mad is when a new HG is telling her story. The two seem to gang up and be really hard on the poor woman who has got to be anxious as hell. They just seem downright spiteful during the story thing. They're also beotches during BOR but I can at least see why that could fall under a tough-love thing. It still bugs me though. Why not support through love and understanding like they do with their pets? Oh yeah, silly me. Because this is about ratings and drama.. not changing lives.
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19. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
>
>I have many of the same
>gripes that have already been
>mentioned, but one of the
>things that makes me so
>mad is when a new
>HG is telling her story.
>The two seem to gang
>up and be really hard
>on the poor woman who
>has got to be anxious
>as hell. They just seem
>downright spiteful during the story
>thing. They're also beotches during
>BOR but I can at
>least see why that could
>fall under a tough-love thing.
>It still bugs me though.
>Why not support through love
>and understanding like they do
>with their pets? Oh yeah,
>silly me. Because this is
>about ratings and drama.. not
>changing lives.
SO TRUE.... If you recall, Lisa referred to the new house guest arriving , with the 'B' word... Also 'A wench' several times.( psycho)
So that indicated to me that Lisa had no intentions of giving this new house guest a chance at all! Why for heaven sakes! What's in it for her?
Be mature??? Pleeeze! ( not to you )Making my point that...It is why I am shocked that the coaches have yet to address this type of behavior- much earlier. ( remember TESS? She was nailed imediately- every time! ) As was all the H.G.'s/ They had to mind the store...
So, a FIRST in the S.O. house, til now.
What's next? Yikes!
I have come to the conclusion that this is a farce.... (?) or very poor communication. ( editing has been confusing as well- to the process, if WE the viewer, is to get the full benefit from the purpose/lessons of the show.
Which I now see is most likely 'ratings'... J.M.H.O.
sniff, sniff... 
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53. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
I'm not convinced it's all about ratings and drama, although I do agree that this season does bring it up to question.I'm thinking that support through love and understanding hasn't worked for these women. If it were that easy, they wouldn't need the show. I'm also remembering that self-transformation often requires the total destruction of the old self so that the individual can recreate themselves. This is the essence of "initiation". I think in season 2 or somewhere it was mentioned that it's normal for a new woman to have her first breakdown / breakthrough when they first arrive and present their story. Lately they seem to have more women who are so detached that perhaps they need to be pushed further to have this breakthrough. Or, perhaps, it's as you say and the push for ratings have forced the LCs to ham it up more than they would in practice. I've no idea what their contracts say or require them to do. I do know that they showed a preview clip of a future episode where IV says that she might be the wrong coach for nuLisa. As for changing lives, perhaps someone should start a thread and talk about what we know about SO's actual success rate. From brief skimmings of websites and such, it seams the most successful ones are ones who know how to market their SO experience and use it to their advantage. How many are actually doing what their goal was? We had the makeup lady from season one who seems to be doing fine in the makeup arena. (And getting to come back to makeup all the graduates can't hurt either!) I'd also be interested if any SO houses which aren't being filmed have been started anywhere. If someone could solve the funding problem, I think such houses could be a help to people. And without needing to worry about ratings, perhaps more practical work would get done as well. >I have many of the same
>gripes that have already been
>mentioned, but one of the
>things that makes me so
>mad is when a new
>HG is telling her story.
>The two seem to gang
>up and be really hard
>on the poor woman who
>has got to be anxious
>as hell. They just seem
>downright spiteful during the story
>thing. They're also beotches during
>BOR but I can at
>least see why that could
>fall under a tough-love thing.
>It still bugs me though.
>Why not support through love
>and understanding like they do
>with their pets? Oh yeah,
>silly me. Because this is
>about ratings and drama.. not
>changing lives.
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01-01-06, 02:28 PM (EST)
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23. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
It's probably just her signature saying, maybe from her book, like Martha Stewart's "it's a good thing".
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01-01-06, 02:49 PM (EST)
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24. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
Thanks, you are probably right but I know if I were one of those women, I would be saying, "WTF?" especially after having to parade around in public with my buttcheeks hanging out.
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27. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
You are totally right about the psycho babble, but believe me, there isn't nearly as much of it this year as there was last season. For the life of me, I cannot figure out why a lot of people think that sounds more spiritual than just plain ole language. If I were there, when IV came in with her "How Ya Livin" I'd say "Well first you have this autonomic nervous system, which makes your heart beat, and your lungs breathe air etc etc. The thing that galls me is how they promote extistentialist Christianity - "Your thoughts are your prayers." If you think negative thoughts all the time God will do negative on you. OH REALLY. An all knowing God, who, according to the Bible, can see your heart, would mistake what you fear for what you want. Uh huh. The reason for having to change thinking is so you stop convincing yourself that the negative stuff is true.
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28. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
I guess I have a different take on Iyanla's morning greeting when she walks into group and addresses the girls. I see her and Rhonda not only as life coaches but also as motivational speakers. Motivational speakers always keep things on a positive and upbeat note. Could you imagine if Iyanla walked in and addressed the group like this....'Morning Ladies, I know you are all struggling so why don't you tell me what your struggling with today?' It would end up an hour of just Allison and her tormented problems. So physcobabble or no, I like hearing Iyanla wail out 'Good Mo'nin LAY-Dies....How YA Livin'......Have a GREAT DAY.... Live Large.....and all her other upbeat messages. Thats my two cents for what it is worth.
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01-03-06, 03:38 PM (EST)
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39. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
I like it too. Something about it puts the responsability back in your shoes. Because it's not about your circumstances and your environment. Its about " Being clothed in your right mind" as Iyanla would say. She also says " be the love, be the joy, be the peace you seek to experience. Don't expect others to bring it. You be it." Its what I beleive was also Christ conciousness. He was it. He was a walking living prayer. So when Iyanla saids " How You livin Ladies" She's reminding them that every thought every word and every action create your life. Because its not enough to merely affirm that we are made in the image and likeness of god. Its about expressing this truth in our actions. We don't have to be perfect to live large, just commited. And so when she saids " How You Livin ladies" She's reminding them of thier commitments. so for one I Love it when she saids that. It reminds me too. Am I living large today? Am I bringing it.
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01-04-06, 00:05 AM (EST)
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42. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
LOL Especially after they get home!
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01-05-06, 07:56 AM (EST)
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43. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
>I think it's just another of
>her signature phrases, like:
>Dr. Phil - how's that workin'
>for you?
>Martha Stewart - that's a good
>thing
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>Would make a good title for
>her next book.
or Dr. Phil's: What were you thinking?
Would love to hear that asked of some of these ladies.
As for the signature comments mentioned above: They are about as good and will last about as long as the pet rock etc did.
As for being a great day......well, I don't care to be....I am not a day I am a human being soL I will be a great human being..
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01-13-06, 06:59 PM (EST)
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50. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
I disagree, and I will tell you why:1. These people are "life coaches"; some "life coaches" only have a BS in Psychology and I'm not even sure what the qualifications of being a "life coach" are. However, they are NOT licensed to practice psychiatry such as, I believe, Dr. Stan is. 2. The "life coaches" I have had direct contact with are only "certified" - in other words, they have not gone to college for this specific degree. "Life Coaching" has only come into play during the past few years because of socioeconomic reasons. 3. Iyanla and Rhonda have bonded and agree with each other on most occasions. They are both tough, which is highly respectable. They also know their limits in how far they can take and/or help a person change and grow. Remember when Iyanla told Allison: "I can't take you any further. YOU have to do the rest yourself." 4. I think Iyanla has very creative ideas when it comes to the housemates facing their demons. Rhonda is more of a disciplinarian but, they both are extremely solid women as opposed to the young~sponge at the Chicago house. What was her name? See? That's how memorable she is. Anyway, I believe what we, as viewers must realize is that it's easy to judge while we are sitting at home watching. Dealing with the housemates and their pasts/present/future lives is a doggone hard job. I commend both Rhonda and Iyanla for sticking to their guns and tellin' it like it is. ~Kozy
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01-26-06, 00:56 AM (EST)
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60. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
I think Iyanla and Rhonda are great life coaches. I have worked for the last 10 years with many mental health professionals with degrees and licenses up the yin yang ... believe me it doesn't mean a darn thing. Anyone can get a PhD, anyone can even get a license, it doesn't mean they are "all there" to the extent that they can help someone else; it doesn't mean they have the insight to see/feel beyond the tip of their own nose, and it doesn't mean they even care about someone else's success. I have met my share of licensed, degreed professionals who are major WHACK JOBS!!! So, no ... I don't put much stock in degrees or how many letters are after someone's name. It's JUST a degree. It's JUST a license. I'm sorry but degrees and licenses are not exclusively given to bright, talented, caring, "whole" human beings.Iyanla and Rhonda are great--they don't put up with excuses, they're realistic, their projects/lessons are creative and meaningful, they are very insightful, intelligent, and just good at what they do. No offense to Dr. Katz but I am not impressed with him much; Iyanla and Rhonda do the REAL work in that house. I would happily have either of them life-coach me! I think the women on that show are so lucky to have such a talented group of professionals to guide them through this process.
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01-26-06, 11:14 AM (EST)
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62. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
Sorry but I can't see how dresses for children, cages, boxes, and making people sit in ponds is effective coaching. It always has seemed like an episode of Fear Factor. I think they had a good process going and then it got strange.
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01-17-06, 10:22 AM (EST)
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55. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
Can't you just picture it now...the next SO, the Bates Motel, with a cast of characters... where is Alfred Hitchcock when we need him?
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56. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
Kozy I agree with you. As far as Rhonda being abusive to TJ I disagree look at how kuch TJ has changed. I like how Iyanla makes them talk to the Universe.
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01-20-06, 09:32 AM (EST)
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57. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
For Allison
For Lisa
For XXXtina
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01-23-06, 01:34 PM (EST)
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58. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
What do you mean?
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01-25-06, 03:49 PM (EST)
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59. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
Did anyone notice today when IV was going over Jodi's goals and steps that she (IV) set the goals, not Jodi? From what I have read about life coaching, the person sets the goals.Also the goals are being very broad and not accountable, like Lisa 1's final step of "Soar" - what is soar? Why not JOB? Also today, when the two LCs were at group and they were talking with Jodi with the other women, did you notice the non-verbal poses of Rhonda and IV, legs crossed away from each other, hands clasped on knees. It was sort of funny, but that is a typical "closed off to that person" pose. They seemed to not like each other today. IV had her back to Rhonda, called Jodi for the same thing.
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01-26-06, 12:19 PM (EST)
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63. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
Good morning SexyTank,
Hmmmm! I watch the show because I'm interested in the psycho - therapy! I don't think Iyanla, Rhonda, or Dr. Stan use anywhere near the babble as your common everyday Lawyer or Physician! In fact, if anything - they speak in laymans terms that their tv viewers can understand - plain and simple! I feel that Iyanla verbally expressing herself with such enthusiasm comes from her deep relgious background (check her background out)!
Have a Great Day!
Rai
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64. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
I totally agree with you Rai. I also think It's very straight forward. I just love Iyanla Vanzant. I think she is doing alot of good for the world.
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71. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
What is the deal with the LCs and men? They've both had screwed up relationshipS, (several and bad ones) in the past.They tell the HGs men are the PROBLEM, and then they tell the HGs men are the ANSWER. Woman can't talk to husband/boyfriend, need to dump them, get a divorce. Women...there will be MEN at the dance! Jill you need a date, Lisa 1 you need a date, etc.
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74. "RE: "Good MO'nin LAY-dies.. How ya Liv'in" I just wanna SMACK the life coach sometimes" |
Both Iyanla and Rhonda overuse the word "ladies". It's so annoying!
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