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"Assignments"
AngelFromValhalla 14 desperate attention whore postings
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10-21-05, 07:20 PM (EST)
 
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LAST EDITED ON 10-21-05 AT 08:17 PM (EST)LAST EDITED ON 10-21-05 AT 07:21 PM (EST) I was wondering how many others out there kind of do the "assignments?" Example: Jill's baggage. I did a lot of thought about it. Wrote down "what" baggage I had and the reasons why I felt I had that bag. Example of myself: WEIGHT- 1. Gained weight from age 10 on because of being molested. Subconsciously didn't want to be "pretty" in turn not getting molested. 2. My father kind of had "eating contests" of sorts w/ my brother. I wanted my Dad to like me so I ate more than I really needed to do. What sickens me most about my weight is that when I was in Jr. High I was enrolled in a weight loss class by someone. To this very day I don't know who enrolled me. I never told my parents about it. I never lost any weight so the "counselor" or whoever they were told me I wasn't allowed back. I was a kid. I ate what my parents put on the table. You weren't allowed to be a picky eater in my family. Want to know a secret on how I dealt with that? If I didn't like something, I'd eat it first. In between bites of the stuff I did like. To get it all down so I wouldn't get yelled at by my parents for not "trying it." To this day I still hate most forms of squash. I like spaghetti squash however. Needless to say, I find that weight loss class a bit traumatizing. My biggest question was why didn't they involve my parents. I am my parents "property" as you will. They are to determine what I eat, when I eat it and so on. The school should have made sure they had their involvement FIRST AND FOREMOST. Obviously if they aren't involved there won't be weight loss. I apologize for my prattling, but I feel better now! LOL 
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Lkplumm 5 desperate attention whore postings
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10-22-05, 02:57 AM (EST)
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1. "RE: Assignments" |
I want to do some of the exercises. Right now I have a journal on my grocery list to buy.
To be honest the show has brought up so many painful memories I cant hardly sleep at night. I cry during the show and I am sometimes emotionaly exausted after. i am still compelled to watch. I have a dream I keep havin over and over. Im in a different frightning bad place each time. I try to call my husband to come home and help me. However I can't see my eyes are like half glued shut. I can't dial my husbands work # i get it wrong for not being able to see I try over and over and can't call him.Also, I can barely speek in the dream its so strang. I think the dream expert showed me Im walking with blinders on very afraid of life, not being heard or using my voice. I think the dream says I can't reach my husband. I have been married for 18 yrs and we have never been able to have a serious confersation about getting out of debt, planning the future or raising out 3 kids. Im 38 and living in denial about lifes challenges scares me. I want to work to change that and don't know where to start without my husband.P.S. Im glad you said you feel better and Im not proof reading because its late and I think I can finally fall to sleep for the night.
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LRoyce 35 desperate attention whore postings
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10-24-05, 01:39 AM (EST)
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5. "RE: Assignments" |
Just a thought, but what if your dream is trying to tell you that no one else, not even your husband, can help you in this effort to sort out and straighten up whatever it is that is hurting/hindering you? Maybe the inability to speak and to see are statements about yourself - you will not see what is hurting you (probably because you think it would hurt a million times more) and you will not speak to yourself about it for the same reason. If better communication with your husband is the goal, then you better first have some real communication with yourself. But often that fear of looking because it would be so huge and so horrible comes from a reaction we had as a child - as an adult, we would not be afraid or horrified but we can't remember when we buried it. So our reaction remains childlike and fearful. A friend taught me a technique that was very useful: take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. Head one side FLAWS or REGRETS; the other side POSITIVES. Then list the things you know about yourself on both sides. You don't have to keep this list, you don't have to show it anyone else. Just do it for yourself so that you can see that for every flaw or regret you have, you have a positive, constructive virtue as well. Then you can start picking a virtue you recognize (for example, loyal) to use as the corrective for the flaw you want to be rid of. I AM LOYAL BUT I AM ALSO CARELESS; I AM GOING TO BE LOYAL TO ME AND WORK EACH DAY ON BEING LESS CARELESS, IF I AM REALLY LOYAL, I CAN RID MYSELF OF MY CARELESSNESS. I don't know if my way of explaining it is making any sense but I do know it worked very well for me. Actually, I should do it again as there are new things cropping up for me because of Starting Over. But you don't need your husband or anyone else to face the things in you; all you need is honesty and the ability to recognize that you are not just the problems you have or the flaws you see. You are the power to change and remove what you don't want in you and to replace it with what you do want. When we were children, we knew that and we did that naturally. Life and learning seem to have taken it away from most of us but it can be relearned. So cry at Starting Over - I do every day, but laugh at the fact that you and I and every other human being is capable of growth and change and freedom when we decide that is what we intend to have. Take baby steps because you don't have a life coach, you just have a life and a hope to grow. And love the ones around you because that is the best medicine in the whole world.
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Carn3 174 desperate attention whore postings
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10-24-05, 02:02 AM (EST)
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6. "RE: Assignments" |
Am I the only one out there who doesnt think that every dream necessarily has to have a hidden meaning-that just maybe, its just thought processes getting all mixed up, or thoughts you havent let "surface" in awhile, that "come to the top" when you are asleep? I may be dense here, but I just dont get how that "dream expert" they had on there, can say they know what everyone`s dreams mean-and they all have to mean something. I know I for one, will dream more when I am excessively tired-also will toss and turn more. Does this have some kind of hidden meaning for me? I dont think so-anyone else`s thoughts on this?
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LRoyce 35 desperate attention whore postings
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10-24-05, 02:47 AM (EST)
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7. "RE: Assignments" |
Not every dream, certainly. But repeated dreams that carry the same message over and over seem to be something we are trying to tell ourselves. Or a dream that seems significant upon awakening. But I don't think we need someone else to translate them; indeed, I don't believe someone else can do more than ask us the right questions to help us uncover our own meaning. It's even in the Bible - Job saying "In dreams and visions of the night we are instructed."
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