>I also agreed with Niambi when
>she said, (paraphrased) "I'm a
>grown-@ssed woman who should be
>able to have a drink
>with dinner...I'm not in AA...I
>wasn't here when all that
>**** was decided."

Geez Louise! I didn't see this episode. But, BRAVO for Niambi! If the temptation is that fierce for Mr.Christie. Then, the addict with the problem should skip dinner and go to an AA meeting instead. Christie doesn't recognize this as *her* problem. Instead, she looks to trash other people who won't support Christie the way *she* decided they should. (Um,..that's the nature of a "controlling personality.")

From what you post here, it seems as if Niambi simply wanted a drink with her dinner. Big freakin' deal. Niambi didn't ask Christie to pour the drink for her, or share the drink with her, right? I mean, if Niambi said to Christie, "Why don't you have a drink with your dinner?" and Christie said no, and Niambi kept up with the "one can't hurt you" THEN, and only THEN would Christie have had an issue with "support" from Niambi. Because it would be personal. Christie has to make HER sobriety about Niambi's choices (and Niambi is right, she wasn't around when this was decided.) Niambi IS an adult, and perfectly capable of ordering a glass of wine with a plate of food, without some spoiled brat calling her names!

I don't drink around the alcoholics in my family, because it makes me uncomfortable. I don't drink around the recovering alcoholics in my family, either, because that also makes me uncomfortable. But, not a single one of them EVER has asked me, or anyone else in our family "Please support me by not drinking around me." Never! They have left functions and called their sponsors, or gone to an AA meeting, (even if we weren't drinking, but they were tempted to) but they realized this was about *them* and not about the people having or not having a drink with dinner, or a beer at a picnic.

Christie might have kicked the alcohol out of her personality, but not the "controlling" part of it!
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>I thought Niambi was articulate in
>expressing why she was angry
>at the dinner with Jodi's
>mom...I hope she becomes as
>clear with herself about Situation
>Man.

I wish this for her, too.
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