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"How do I get my boyfriend to realize that this show is NOT stupid?"
kountrychick04 3 desperate attention whore postings
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11-01-05, 12:23 PM (EST)
 
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"How do I get my boyfriend to realize that this show is NOT stupid?" |
I love Starting Over. I love how these women are trying to "fix" their lives, but my boyfriend thinks it's stupid & I'm stupid for watching it. I have a hard time with words & I can't get through to him how honorable these women are for realizing how bad their lives are & wanting to "start over". He makes comments like, "...too much estrogen...they're fine the way they are...they're normal...that's how the world works". Is he blind to the fact that this world so messed up that he considers that normal? The fact that these women are tired of living such messed up lives that they're trying to wipe the slate clean & start over is stupid to him. Help me out here somebody! PLEASE!!!
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mhb0125 485 desperate attention whore postings
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11-01-05, 12:36 PM (EST)
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1. "RE: How do I get my boyfriend to realize that this show is NOT stupid?" |
We are in the same boat. My husband doesn't understand why I watch the show either but he respect me that I choose to. He makes fun of the way all the ladies are so emotional all the time. I think it's just the difference between men and women. Most women are emotional and most men are not. I would just tell them that it's a show that you like to watch and he doesn't have to watch it with you or be around when you do. My husband is a fanatic about all the motorcycle shows (American Chopper, Biker Build Off, Texas Hardtails) and I don't understand why he has to watch them ALL THE TIME and watch the reruns ALL THE TIME. When he jives on me about SO, I say something about the shows he watches. It usually shuts him up.
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kountrychick04 3 desperate attention whore postings
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11-01-05, 01:39 PM (EST)
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2. "RE: How do I get my boyfriend to realize that this show is NOT stupid?" |
Thx. It's nice to know I'm not the only one who feels this way.
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cannfran59 56 desperate attention whore postings
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11-01-05, 07:12 PM (EST)
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4. "RE: How do I get my boyfriend to realize that this show is NOT stupid?" |
Spoken WISELY!! Besides, maybe you can learn to enjoy 1 hr to yourself everyday while you watch! That way you can respond anyway you want and not feel 'teased' or crazy for interacting with a bunch of women!!! I watch everyday and I'm proud of it! Gives me somethin to whine about !!!!...ann
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kountrychick04 3 desperate attention whore postings
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11-02-05, 01:25 PM (EST)
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8. "RE: How do I get my boyfriend to realize that this show is NOT stupid?" |
I mean that he doesn't even try to understand the show. He just sees how the women are acting on one random day & says things like, "too much drama...this is stupid...blah, blah, blah." He doesn't want to try to understand why they're acting the way they do. Oh, and the assignments, he says that's the stupidest part of it. I tried to explain to him in an analogy how the life coaches are kind of like math teachers. Math teachers give you the tools to do a simple math problem in school, so you can use those tools to do a bigger math problem later in life. As do the life coaches: they give the women tools to use in simple assignments, so they'll know what to do when a bigger life problem comes their way. And he still just shakes his head & looks at me like I'm brainwashed & caught up in all this "drama".
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claire 30 desperate attention whore postings
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11-15-05, 05:28 PM (EST)
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23. "RE: How do I get my boyfriend to realize that this show is NOT stupid?" |
Your real problem is that your husband does not respect you or your opinion. Not a big deal that he does not like the show, my husband doesn't like the show either, but he never ever attacks me for watching it.
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frogfan72 95 desperate attention whore postings
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11-02-05, 01:18 AM (EST)
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6. "RE: How do I get my boyfriend to realize that this show is NOT stupid?" |
If you can't find a boyfriend that is for self-improvement, change and integrity... he's not the right guy for you, and doesn't seem to value your opinions. If he did, he wouldn't be putting down something you feel strongly about, he'd listen.
I know it's just a show, but it does run deeper than that.
sofangal
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Imn2pt 15 desperate attention whore postings
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11-12-05, 04:50 PM (EST)
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10. "RE: How do I get my boyfriend to realize that this show is NOT stupid?" |
Hey, sometimes even I think the show is dumb. Like when Rhonda had the ladies take Allison's shoes off! And how they brought Mr. Ozzy into the show. What the heck is THAT all about! But then I watch some of the shows my husband watches and I think it is dumb that every male oriented show has to have some mostly naked lady on it. I guess men know that can't keep another man's interest unless naked ladies with big boobs is involved. I told my husband that it was an insult to his intelligence. He didn't hear me....he was watching TV.
Jane
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grace488 145 desperate attention whore postings
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11-14-05, 10:48 AM (EST)
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14. "RE: How do I get my boyfriend to realize that this show is NOT stupid?" |
I agree with PINKF. I have been married 20 years so I know a little about men. I also has an abusive father so I'm sensitive to being called "stupid". I hope that you give some serious thought to being with a man who calls you stupid for watching a TV show that he doesn't care for. This man seems to have strong negative reaction when he see's he is not in control (like you being absorbed in the show for an hour and not paying attention to him) some may not see this but this boyfriend of yours is taking this as a threat-and it is JUST a show. I can imagine what this boyfriend will say when life gets a little more real like if you got very sick and couldn't care for him, or like if some disaster that was not in your control occurred-how would he react. Be a smart woman and let him know your feelings matter -being called stupid is demeaning and hurtful(in a mnon reactive respectful manner),(if you see that they dont matter-get a new plan STAN and stop wasting your love on a man who could care less about your feelings) Do yourself a huge favor and find a book on "verbal abuse" at your library and read it carefully. I hope you are not nagging him into watching the show, please stop if you are, if you want to be in the company of people who like to talk about SOH---this is why god made chat groups. People are entitled to think this show is annoying and not worth watching, just like you are entitled to think SOH is great television.
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JohnEthc 38 desperate attention whore postings
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11-13-05, 04:49 AM (EST)
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12. "RE: How do I get my boyfriend to realize that this show is NOT stupid?" |
I show Starting Over ALL the time to straight guys and they seem to all love it!!You simply need to get him into it by showing him parts that he would be interested in... Guys seem to be interested in Christina's storyline (prolly because she's pretty hot!) what does he think of her? The only other recommendations that I have are to show him the crazy, drama filled moments... then he can laugh at all the estrogen... good luck!!!
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AshLanie 895 desperate attention whore postings
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11-13-05, 07:51 AM (EST)
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13. "RE: How do I get my boyfriend to realize that this show is NOT stupid?" |
Well, males are males and unless it is anyhing but sports etc then it is stupid.Seems though he should RESPECT what you like to watch. Explain to him, in a nice calm way, that you don't appreciate him knocking something you like. Ask him to be elsewhere when you are watching the show so you can enjoy it without negative interruptions. Might explain, if his comments do hurt you, that he is hurting you by his negative comments.
If all else fails, kick him out when you are watching the show....chuckling
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grace488 145 desperate attention whore postings
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11-14-05, 10:50 AM (EST)
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15. "RE: How do I get my boyfriend to realize that this show is NOT stupid?" |
agree with PINKF. I have been married 20 years so I know a little about men. I also has an abusive father so I'm sensitive to being called "stupid". I hope that you give some serious thought to being with a man who calls you stupid for watching a TV show that he doesn't care for. This man seems to have strong negative reaction when he see's he is not in control (like you being absorbed in the show for an hour and not paying attention to him) some may not see this but this boyfriend of yours is taking this as a threat-and it is JUST a show. I can imagine what this boyfriend will say when life gets a little more real like if you got very sick and couldn't care for him, or like if some disaster that was not in your control occurred-how would he react. Be a smart woman and let him know your feelings matter -being called stupid is demeaning and hurtful(in a mnon reactive respectful manner),(if you see that they dont matter-get a new plan STAN and stop wasting your love on a man who could care less about your feelings) Do yourself a huge favor and find a book on "verbal abuse" at your library and read it carefully. I hope you are not nagging him into watching the show, please stop if you are, if you want to be in the company of people who like to talk about SOH---this is why god made chat groups. People are entitled to think this show is annoying and not worth watching, just like you are entitled to think SOH is great television.
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PaintNmyNails 21 desperate attention whore postings
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11-14-05, 12:53 PM (EST)
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17. "RE: How do I get my boyfriend to realize that this show is NOT stupid?" |
That is horrible to be called stupid. Not acceptable at all. My hubby and father in law also love to bash SO after my mother in law and I have been dishing about the show. I always tease them back because they immatate the housemates pretty well, too well. If it is such a bad show why have they watched it enough to know the characters. Can't blame them too much. This show is exploding with estrogen. I don't like watching shows about fixing cars and stuff. I think it is pretty normal that they don't like SO. But it does suck not having someone to talk to about the show. Try getting one of your girlfriends into it so you guys can chat about it. Your boyfriend will never like it. He shouldn't call you stupid. Have you told him that it really hurts your feelings when he makes fun of your likes? Especially when it is a show you like so much.
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benjaminmaggid 2 desperate attention whore postings
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11-14-05, 01:13 PM (EST)
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19. "RE: How do I get my boyfriend to realize that this show is NOT stupid?" |
Get on the show as one of the women. Not only will he think it's really cool he's with someone who's on tv, but you might learn to love yourself enough to get a man who doesn't think you're stupid.
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jmama 25 desperate attention whore postings
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11-14-05, 11:28 PM (EST)
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21. "RE: How do I get my boyfriend to realize that this show is NOT stupid?" |
You know,EVERYONE I know thinks its silly.But I have learned so much and have been touched and inspired by some of these women.So I keep watching and celebrating this show with all of the true SO fans.
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Obillyboy 4 desperate attention whore postings
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11-15-05, 06:11 PM (EST)
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24. "RE: How do I get my boyfriend to realize that this show is NOT stupid?" |
Obviously your boyfriend is not in touch with his emotions and just wouldn't understand any of it.
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EnfanTerrible 1239 desperate attention whore postings
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11-16-05, 10:22 AM (EST)
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25. "RE: How do I get my boyfriend to realize that this show is NOT stupid?" |
I think the OP has left the building.
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misstimberlake91 17 desperate attention whore postings
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11-16-05, 12:38 PM (EST)
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26. "RE: How do I get my boyfriend to realize that this show is NOT stupid?" |
Well the truth is that you can't get him to like i've been with strting over since day one and whenever its on around my dad he says we cant watch it because it gives him nightmares so do what my parents did get a dvr or tivo
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TVFreak 189 desperate attention whore postings
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11-17-05, 00:48 AM (EST)
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30. "RE: How do I get my boyfriend to realize that this show is NOT stupid?" |
Be honest now - if you only saw a few segments of this show - wouldn't you say it's 'stupid' too.(I watch the show everyday, and I sometimes think that it's STUPID!) My husband doesn't take a liking to anything that I watch on daytime TV. What he doesn't know, is that SO has helped him a lot, in terms of our relationship. I no longer Blame him for all of our problems. I can recognize some of my 'stuff' that interferes in our day to day lives and shows up in our conflicts. Shhh, please don't tell him that a daytime show, while entertaining, may actually help our relationship. If he really thinks the show is stupid, sit down and watch his shows with him and ask some 'stupid' questions i.e. why do all the players slap each others butts? why do the guys dribble the ball? why do the guys adjust their packages all the time? why is this car show so STUPID?
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cali 7 desperate attention whore postings
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11-17-05, 10:48 AM (EST)
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31. "RE: How do I get my boyfriend to realize that this show is NOT stupid?" |
My husband and I are very busy, he works full time for the government and I am studying my Masters degree, so we set the recoder and watch starting over together at the end of the day in bed. It's something that we've worked into quality time together, and we both look forward to it. I don't know your husband, obviously, but maybe try and include him more fully. explain the women's lives and goals, see if he can connect on some level to at least one of them. He obviously cares about women, he loves you and his mother and others, so maybe you can open his mind to the show taking a different approach. If you don't think he is sensitive enough to appreciate it, then perhaps you need to just accept that he'll never 'get it' and enjoy watching the show and chatting with others about it. Cali
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11-17-05, 02:57 PM (EST)
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32. "RE: How do I get my boyfriend to realize that this show is NOT stupid?" |
Due to my work schedule and the schedule of my daughters visiting their dad I get two nights a week with my boyfriend of 6 yrs. Because I work nights alot of times when I stay over I will wake up around 3:30 am and stay up for a little bit. Stating Over replays here at 4am and there have been a few nights recently where he has woke up too and he watches it with me. It has taken some time but he is starting to appreciate the show and what it is trying to do and he now asks me questions about the characters while we are watching. However I am sure that if it was daytime he would be so willing to watch with me. If your boyfriend never gets in it that is fine this is not a show most men can or want to relate to. So enjoy the show with the rest of us you can always chat with us about it!!!!!!! good Luck to you
Kathy in Washington State
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