I think Margie could have phrased it in a better way, but yes, that's what she was aiming for with her comments.

My parents and my brother all went through it with me when I was younger - you'd be surprised at how many people who are minorities themselves and are part of a group that has frequently been made fun of or historically have been treated poorly then go on and treat others with less respect in the same manner.

Jen knowingly called Luke a bitch behind his back such that he wouldn't be able to hear/see what she said - it took Margie to tell Luke what she said before he went into anger/meltdown mode. In our community, it's a sign of disrespect to talk about a deaf person behind his back - particularly to slam someone out of eyesight.

It's why sign-language interpreters have a code of ethics that whenever a deaf person enters the room, they automatically switch over to sign language while conversing with each other, even if the conversation has nothing at all to do with the particular deaf person who has just entered. It's a sign of respect and equality for everyone.

I think that is what Margie was getting at - she was offended at Jen badmouthing Luke behind his back when she was the one who draped herself on Luke's back and then reached around him while he was trying to get the clue. I realize that most of it was because of the emotion and stress of the race, but if Jen has a problem with Luke, she should know enough to tell Luke right to his face instead of muttering behind his back knowing he can't hear what she says.

Really... this whole kerfuffle could have been avoided if all racers were told to back off and give the person with his/her hand on the clue box first an extra two or three seconds to get the clue then move out of the way for the next person. Jen had one hand on Luke's back and was reaching over him with the other hand, so naturally Luke's first response was to push her away. I'd have pushed her back as well and said "BACK OFF" firmly if I were in the same position (minus the elbow throw but add the stiff-arm).