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"Are there REAL SO houses?"
Pinkster 159 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Blistex Spokesperson"
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10-12-05, 02:39 PM (EST)
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"Are there REAL SO houses?" |
I think a Starting Over house situation would be good for me.Not very interested in doing a TV show though. I wonder if there is anything like a PRIVATE S.O. house. (Other than mental health facilities, half-houses etc..) Music was my refuge. I could crawl into the space between the notes and curl my back to loneliness. -Maya Angelou
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Carn3 174 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Blistex Spokesperson"
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10-12-05, 10:40 PM (EST)
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1. "RE: Are there REAL SO houses?" |
IV was training Kimmie and her daughter to be LC`s a while back-they might have opened up their own "Starting Over" house by now.
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angelami1937 80 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Hollywood Squares Square"
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10-15-05, 07:55 PM (EST)
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13. "RE: Are there REAL SO houses?" |
I wonder what having Kimmy as a life coach would be like? Some how I keep seeing makeup lessons, fashion tips, tennis lessons, plate throwing and the comment" I knew that was going to happen" be part of the curiculum. LOL
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Pinkster 159 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Blistex Spokesperson"
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10-12-05, 11:24 PM (EST)
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6. "RE: Are there REAL SO houses?" |
Thanks everyone for your comments.I've certainly gone to therapists before... with limited success. What I like about the Starting Over HOUSE... is that you're in a community --- away from the everyday crap and habitual atmosphere. Your there just to work on YOU (as well as support and learn from your roomates with similar endevours.).
I would love to go away and get a chance to "reboot". Music was my refuge. I could crawl into the space between the notes and curl my back to loneliness. -Maya Angelou
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Dear Debby 64 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Hollywood Squares Square"
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10-13-05, 08:11 AM (EST)
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7. "RE: Are there REAL SO houses?" |
Pinkster I thought of the same thing. A SO house without the TV. The only problem is the cost of running such a house without the productions money. Most would not be able to afford such a place. It probably wouldn't be that difficult to find counselors for the right price, but how could you maintain the cost of the house? What would it take to have hospitalization to cover the cost of the Doctors? I believe this type of help would benefit people more than the one on one counseling once a week for an hour. Being with others in a daily setting allows you to see and help others with different problems, while they assist you in meeting your own goals! There could be different houses for different groups of people. Couples houses, houses for women....and what about houses for men??? If houses like this ever do become available, I'll bet they will be full all the time with people....this is going to be the new fad for help.
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queendiva 2 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "American Cancer Society Spokesperson"
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10-13-05, 05:39 PM (EST)
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8. "RE: Are there REAL SO houses?" |
I know, I always say the same thing...I would love to experience that, but I would hate to be on t.v.
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Sharon_L 260 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Network TV Show Guest Star"
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10-13-05, 06:25 PM (EST)
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9. "RE: Are there REAL SO houses?" |
LAST EDITED ON 10-13-05 AT 06:27 PM (EST)If you enter the keywords on Goggle, "retreats women" there are a zillion links. Retreats seems to be a broad word that includes anything from a few hours to several days, even weeks. A clone of SOH might very well exist somewhere. good luck, ladies.
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Imogen01 4 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "American Cancer Society Spokesperson"
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10-15-05, 01:25 PM (EST)
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12. "RE: Are there REAL SO houses?" |
LAST EDITED ON 10-15-05 AT 01:34 PM (EST)I would recommend finding a therapist who provides group therapy in the form of open-ended process groups (focuses on life and relationships and such, as opposed to say, a 10 week group for all sexual abuse survivors). If you want individual therapy as well, you could find an individual therapist who also brings clients together for group once a week as well, so you have the same therapist for individual and group. This way you can work on your issues over a longer period of time which lets you practice new behaviors in your real world, and you don't have to leave your job and family. And I'm not bashing the SO house, but there are obviously pros and cons to SO. And if you are more interested in the life coach approach, you can try to find a life coach who offers similar services and/or find a therapist who also life coaches or one with a more life-coach like approach (eg. Reality Therapy). Finally, if you are into "new age", there are yoga retreat centers and other places where you can respite for months at a time, but this is costly, and doesn't really provide therapeutic support outside of spiritual and physical renewal from a healthy environment (which can be powerful in itself).
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atzd 83 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Hollywood Squares Square"
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10-16-05, 11:58 PM (EST)
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14. "RE: Are there REAL SO houses?" |
I agree with Imogen, for most people, including myself it would be extremely hard to leave their family for an extended period. I would definitely seek out a therapist rather than a life coach. Make sure that she/he has the proper credentials and has experience. There are lots of lousy therapists out there.
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CarlyBaby 10 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Got Milk? Spokesperson"
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10-17-05, 09:45 AM (EST)
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15. "RE: Are there REAL SO houses?" |
>I would definitely >seek out a therapist rather >than a life coach. >Make sure that she/he has >the proper credentials and has >experience. There are lots >of lousy therapists out there. AMEN to THIS!!!! Yes there are dosens of therapists who are in it for the money!!!!! My high school psychology teacher used to say to us "a close friend can help you get on your feet & you can help them by being real by saying to them maybe we need to work on this issue & you use we so they don't feel alone!!!!!" I wish I had listened to her advice one year after graduation I had her Senior year.... Lets say leave a gap from 2001 - 2005 & now my friends & I go out on Fridays & we laugh & have a great time sometimes getting on serious issues.... But we are always apt to help serve each other in any way we can!!!!! I don't think the degree in this or that is the thing. It's you and your friends sayin' yes, we've seen hell been there done that now we're helping each other move on.... I'm not trying to step on toes here & if I did by expressing that comment may I please beg forgiveness. Starting another SO house would be really awesome.... but for now eating out of Fridays or sitting around my friends table talking about our hopes dreams & worries is what we've got & it's helped me personally grow more than the therapy ever did.... W/ this I was able to talk to my doctor who told me to get a dog & get off all psych meds & I did that - w/ friends you really can get anything done!!!!!
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atzd 83 desperate attention whore postings DAW Level: "Hollywood Squares Square"
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10-17-05, 11:37 PM (EST)
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16. "RE: Are there REAL SO houses?" |
A bad therapist can do more harm than your mother if she tried her hardest, but with the right therapist, the process can be a life changing experience. Of course, friends are great too, but good ones are hard to come by.
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