I think eating properly (that doesn't mean dieting or not eating well)and exercising are important ways of taking care of ourselves; just as important as the makeovers, bras, makeup, and dating that SO spends so much time on. So many women eat/exercise poorly because they don't have the self-esteem to take care of themselves. Structure and discipline are also important in a "recovery" setting. I thought that schedule Iyanla gave Jennifer last year, though somewhat strict, was a really good idea. If you take care of yourself and accomplish things, you will feel better about yourself and your day.
I thought it was awesome that Iyanla sent Lisa to that battered women's shelter. That is another important thing for happiness and fulfillment: helping others and feeling needed.
These are all basic tools for building self-esteem, self-reliance and discipline, which should all be part of starting over.