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"SO for men??"
Posted by justsomeguy on 05-05-06 at 11:29 AM
I am probably one of a handful of men nationwide that watch SO regularly and like it for what it is and how it helps people. I am also straight! I was a sociology/psychology major in college. What does anyone think of a SO house for Men?? Is that even possible??
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"RE: SO for men??"
Posted by Redbud on 05-05-06 at 12:00 PM
>I am probably one of a
>handful of men nationwide that
>watch SO regularly and like
>it for what it is
>and how it helps people.
>I am also straight! I
>was a sociology/psychology major in
>college. What does anyone
>think of a SO house
>for Men?? Is that
>even possible??


Probably not. The show runs during the day when lots of "housewives" and "stay at home soccer moms" are home watching. They are probably the target audience and won't care to watch a bunch of single guys living together, it doesn't resonate with them. They did have a couples SOH, get a girl and try for that one.

"RE: SO for men??"
Posted by susang on 05-05-06 at 12:15 PM
I'd like to see men in the SO house. It would be interesting to see how they communicate and handle the exercises (vs. the women). I find gender differences fascinating.


"RE: SO for men??"
Posted by realtvlvr on 05-05-06 at 12:35 PM
sign my husband up please!
"RE: SO for men??"
Posted by mirage3033 on 05-05-06 at 01:18 PM
It would be an interesting format, the current one has played out. Remember the group therapy that Billy from Allie McBeal went to.
"RE: SO for men??"
Posted by dopeydwarf on 05-05-06 at 03:28 PM

Would you really want to go through all that cr@p? I don't know if it really does anyone any good anymore.

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"RE: SO for men??"
Posted by Shields4SO on 05-05-06 at 03:39 PM
I'm another one of 'the guys' that regularly watches, with my wife. Both of us have gotten alot out of SO and have a great deal of respect for the LC's and Dr. Stan. This show is by far much more valuable and interesting to me than 'poop operas' as I call them. Learning about real life issues and gaining tools to handle them is great to see on any channel.

I bet most women would be very interested in seeing men getting therapy or working with LC's. Understanding the opposite sex has always been highly sought after on both sides. I'd also be interested in how the wives/girlfriends would react to the changes their man goes through. I'd watch it!

"RE: SO for men??"
Posted by evilfeevil on 05-06-06 at 06:51 PM
I doubt many men would watch it...I really enjoyed the couples boot camp episodes that ran, more than I thought I would. But as far as an SO house for men, I doubt it would work (unless only women are watching)...my boyfriend cannot stand SO! If I'm watching it on tape and he comes into the room, I actually have to stop the tape or he'll immediately start berating the characters to me, saying how it is the stupidest show ever! And he's usually not that closed-minded, but something about *feelings* irritates him, I guess. ;-P I would probably watch an SO for men show, though.
"RE: SO for men??"
Posted by mysticwolf on 05-07-06 at 01:13 AM
Because they are in archives now, and as such cannot be commented on, I'll leave this topic unlocked. But, if you do a search of the word "men", choose "subject", and include an archive search, you'll find that this subject has come up a number of times. The responses in some of those threads may prove enlightening to you.


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"RE: SO for men??"
Posted by Twinkles on 05-08-06 at 04:49 AM
I think the idea for SOH was to use take off on the way that women socialize and support each other in groups by sharing their issues, ups, and downs in life. Iyanla and others tried to form a sisterhood and even if it doesn't work while everyone is in the house, encourages the women to create some archetypal female groups after they leave. (finding wise-women mentors, and a growing sisterhood of friends, for example).

Men definitely bond in groups but the parallel isn't that they get together to dissect, examine, share, and heal each others relationships, families, and hurts. The male generalization is that it's more a bonding by just being in each others presence and accepting each other as you are.

I know men in conflict have an entirely different dynamic than women. I just can't even think of how much rework/rethinkng the show would take to really be designed to help men with their issues. (Oh, my, I just flashed on graduation ceremonies and Andy Paige makeovers with too much mascara. *must remove mental image*)

Now that people have seen Starting Over, I'm sure there are men who want to work on their issues and would be happy to come into the house and work with (perhaps male) LCs to challenge them to grow and change. I think the aspect of having endless opportunities to chat and feeling safe and isolated might not be as essential but it always helps to get away from a situation to deal with ones own issues. I think it could work. I think any stay at home people watching the show now would watch men on the show. (especially if they were hawt. just kidding. )

"RE: SO for men??"
Posted by Jadens Mommy on 05-08-06 at 11:04 AM
I would definately watch SO for men! It would probably be more interesting. It might help me understand my husband better. He happened to get a glimpse of SO recently on a day off from work and he thought the idea of the show was great. I was surprised. It thought he was going to say something like, "Oh, please!"
"RE: SO for men??"
Posted by NewFan on 05-08-06 at 04:46 PM
I would enjoy an SO for Men, but only if my husband watched too and could pick up some tips

Just think of all the sports-related or fishing/hunting-related challenges they could use to help them! I think anger could be a huge issue, and I'll bet a lot of men would end up walking out rather than going through with a challenge or being vulnerable or taking criticism at a BOR. But that's so sexist of me to say!

The whole vibe would be way different though. It's interesting to think about. I don't think you would have as much of the tears and hugs and openness and general support. But again, just me being sexist...