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"Niambi updated her blog"
Posted by creepyoldwoman on 06-03-06 at 07:54 PM
Niambi updated her blog and it's sort of smoking. Lots of nice things about IY, not so nice things about SO. IY tried to help her after the show was over and so on. Makes a good read. I am glad Niambi has made it with her depression and all. She sounds like she has been through the ringer emotionally.
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"RE: Niambi updated her blog"
Posted by Seabisquit on 06-03-06 at 07:58 PM
creepyoldwoman...are you still getting the blog from May 26...her last post before the Memorial weekend?
"RE: Niambi updated her blog"
Posted by creepyoldwoman on 06-03-06 at 08:04 PM
Yes. I guess it's old news then? Sorry. I didn't see it mentioned anywhere here. Yes, the one where she is going to NY for Memorial day. She talks about IY and the show and her singing and stuff.


"RE: Niambi updated her blog"
Posted by Seabisquit on 06-03-06 at 08:19 PM
I think Niambi is doing well, and will be just fine. I hope so anyway. I wish her well. I don't like the way she was portrayed. From day one she appeared so sad and, of course, we all know why....she was depressed. She's still young, she's intelligent, and she has accomplished a lot in her life. If she wants to settle down with a man, I hope she finds one that will be exclusive to her alone. Who needs to be involved in a love triangle.
"RE: Niambi updated her blog"
Posted by sharnina on 06-03-06 at 08:23 PM
Here is the text in case you can't get there;

Friday, May 26, 2006

On this Memorial Day, I'm Remembering SO & All of You!!
Current mood: accomplished
Category: Goals, Plans, Hopes


So, it's all over! Or at least the TV land part. But we all know that people who do reality TV shows are not characters, we are REAL people. People who had lives before the cameras and have lives to go back to that dont include camera crews and production teams.

Looking back at the footage, I definitely would have done some things differently. But that's because even my limited exposure to the process had a profound effect on me! I have truly changed so much. But during my time in the house, I was being my authentic self, in those moments. More than anything, when I came to the house, I was genuinely tired. Tired of the struggle, tired of the fight, tired of the tears and disappointment. I had disengaged from my life, so it was natural that on many levels (esp. early) I disengaged from the house. I sincerely wish not so much time and energy was given to the infamous situation with Situation Man. But I think they (SO) had to put each woman in a very specific, neat, little category. You know, for promo purposes and such. My main reason for disrupting my whole life and undertaking this challenge was to learn skills to maximize my full potential and uncover my next career move. I had a job (just over broke) that I absolutely hated and I wanted a career I could not only be proud of, but be truly stimulated by.

When I first got back home, it was an adjustment to get used to living for real again. The first couple weeks was a time of deprogramming. I mean, I had been so used to being aware that EVERY comment and conversation was being heard by a nameless, faceless 3rd party. This acute awareness had caused me to censor & stifle my speaking, so upon returning home, needless to say, I was a chatterbox!! I couldnt shut-up, I think I was even talking in my sleep!!!

There's no music allowed in the house! We couldnt even sing. That really affected my spirit, my mood, my soul. Music is such a big part of my life. I'm always walking around singing, or listening to CD's, the radio, tapes... SOMETHING! As an only child, raised by a single working mom, I had to learn to entertain myself. Music has always been major in occupying my time. Having to let that go in the SO house was like breaking an addiction. It was hard y'all! Some nights I would wait until they took our mic's, get in the shower and sing my head off!! It made me feel sooo much better, especially after a challenging day. Well, when I got home, I was giving 3 hour shower concerts twice a day! I was out of control and I loved it! I realized how much I'd missed it and how much a part of me music is. I mean after all, my name means Sweet Melody in Swahili. Wether in a big way, or small way, music will always be a part of my life!!

When I was still in the house, Mama Iy told me she would never leave me. And she hasnt. She gave me a book of hers to help me work through and manage my depression & continue the healing. It's called "Living Through the Meantime". It helped me more than I can express. There are practical steps to follow that walk you through the darkness. I could hear and see her right there with me as I completed each exercise. It has been a real life saver!! She also haggled with the show, on my behalf, to pick up the tab on after-care sessions with a psychologist. This meant so much to me, cause she didnt have to do that, and they (the show) were pretty much done with me. There were only a few qualified practitioners in my area. Three werent seeing new patients at the time, one was not at all agreeable to third party payment and one I found after the show headquarters had dissolved. So, I never received any official counseling or continued therapy after the show, but by the grace of God, I have found my way out of the abyss of sadness and despair.

Honestly, for about a month or two, I was in the belly of the beast. I sunk deeper into the melancholy lake of depression. I felt like I was worse off than when I went in the house. I was disillusioned and angry at the way it all ended. I was pissed that I was seen and characterized and had acted so one-dimensional. I had to quit my job of almost two years with no notice to come out to CA. And although I hated it, it was stable and paid the bills, but I couldnt return cause I just left. I had to leave my apartment and had nowhere to call my own to live. Even my dog seemed to be looking at me like he expected me to just pack up and leave him again. I was sick! And then there's Situation Man. We saw eachother a couple times when I first got back, but pretty quickly, I decided that I needed to put some distance between us and there was no communication for almost 3 months. So, there went that as well. I felt like I had nothing in my life! But what I know and see now is that I had everything. It's like everything had to be stripped away, to make room for the fullness of my future!! I had to get real still and real quiet and listen. Listen to my heart, my intuition, my God! I had nothing to lean on, or hide behind, or point the finger at. There was just me. I had to come to a place when I believed that I was enough; that I am enough!!

About two months ago I clearly saw the light at the end of the tunnel and now, today, I dont even see the tunnel anymore! All I see is light!! I have a new, exciting, and fulfilling career, not just a JOB. I'm a mortgage broker and real estate investor!! I love what I do and can really see myself growing into this industry! I'm learning something new everyday and soaking it all up like a sponge. And even though the money is secondary, it's great! And most importantly, it's financing the dream. My creative dreams.

Most of you know that I write (obviously journals and memoirs), but I've enjoyed and even won awards for writing my whole life. I have tons of stories and prose and lyrics. I remember writing my first grade graduation song! It was a hoot and came so naturally. I'm working on a collection of poems and short stories, even as you read this post. Even though I feel my verbal communication skills are exceptional (if I do say so myself ), I feel I express myself alot better on paper. I am definitely in hot pursuit of maximizing my full pen potential. I've even chosen my pen name, it's Melody Sweet, so when you come across that name in your local bookstore, you'll know exactly who it is !!

Then, there's the music and recording. I cant tell you what a rush that was. It was a high like I've never known before. I could have stayed in the studio and played all day long. I didnt want it to be over. Being there took one of the hardest days and moments of my life and made something good and special out of it. And the best part? When it was over, I had something beautiful to show for it. Something of me to take away. Something to always remember that moment by. It was like falling in love, I felt free and light. I felt like I was home... Since I've been out of the house, I've been back in the studio! I have recorded three more affirmation tracks and four of my original poems!! I will put samples on this site and make the discs in their entirety available to anyone that's interested. Also, since I dont believe SO will be continuing for a season 4 (I have not been contacted about returning), I think I will be able to make the Shining CD available to you all as well. Just let me know if you are interested and I'll see what I can do! But suffice it to say, I am releasing fear of the Songbird!!

I've also been approached about public speaking. Now, this something I used to do, but it was in a recruiting capacity and for the Army no less. So, it wasnt the most enjoyable experience. However, I did thouroghly enjoy meeting and talking with young people about their futures. That was one of the most exciting and meaningful things I've ever done! I am ecstatic about the prospect of fellow shipping with women and teenage girls about living the life of their dreams. When I was first approached, my initial thought was, "I'm not qualified to help anybody esle. I had to go on a TV show to get help with my own life and I didnt even finish that right!! I dont know nuthin bout birthin no babiez Miss Scarlet!" But the more I thought about it and talked with Mama Iy and others, the more I've come to realize, if not me, then who? If not now, then when? Tomorrow is not promised and I already am everything I want to be. To whom much is given, much is required. Am I going to let my fear and negative self-talk keep me from giving back? Not anymore. I would probably never be able to express to Iyanla what a light and spirit guide she has been to me, but if I help up even one of my sisters in pain, or in turmoil, or in the dark, then I am paying homage to the help that has been so graciously extended to me. Pay it forward, that's what it's all about. That's what life is all about!! So I have humbly accepted the challenge of helping to build an Ark, like Noah's, for all of my sisters and brothers who seek refuge from the storm and floods of life! On this project, as well, I will keep you posted. I cant wait to meet and talk with you all.

So, you see, life for me is so full and rich now. I feel like "the queen of the world"! I have so much going on in my life and so much to look forward to, I no longer look to others for love and validation, because I heap it on myself. And love seems to attract love. The more I appreciate me, the more appreciation others have of me. The life is back in my eyes and the song is back in my heart. My family and friends say that I havent looked or sounded this happy in years! The truth is, I havent felt this alive, in years!! I am so on, I am magic in motion...

I must also address the emails and comments you guys leave. I cannot even begin to adequately express how much your kindness and whole-hearted support have meant to me. You all are so energizing and are evidence that I am on the perfect path for my life. I am so inspired by your love and stories and each message, EVERY single one is special to me. For you all to take time out of your busy lives to reach out to me takes my breath away. I dont take any message or gesture of encouragement for granted. I try to personally respond to each one, like it's the only one. No cutting and pasting a form letter, I'm all there with you!! So I thank you for your patience and continued understanding, as I have 19 pages to respond to! And that's just since Tuesday!! But trust, I will get to each one.

I am going to New York for the holiday, and will probably not be back online until next Tuesday! I have to say too, that logging onto my Myspace page is like coming downstairs on Christmas morning. You guys always leave me the best gifts and I get a blast out of opening every one! So, keep 'em comin' and I'll do the same! Peace and One Love Y'all...Niambi Now

LOVE IS A VITAMIN, THANKS FOR KEEPING ME HEALTHY AND STRONG!!!!!!!!!!



Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself.
Each day has enough trouble of its own. Matthew 6:34

"RE: Niambi updated her blog"
Posted by Omniscia on 06-04-06 at 07:09 AM
Thanks for posting that-- interesting read.

I really liked Niambi-- I hated that they didn't have "time" for her-- I wish she had been in the house for as much or more time than Toadie and Christie. I'm glad she's doing better, and I was very impressed that Iyanla has kept up with her promise.

"RE: Niambi updated her blog"
Posted by creepyoldwoman on 06-04-06 at 08:07 AM
I liked Niambi too. I was turned off of her in the beginning but then she grew on me. I hope she finds what she is looking for in her new career. It's funny but I can read her blog and feel good for her and yet read something from Christie about what she is doing and I feel like gagging. I am wondering if it is the writing style or my own prejudice against Christies theatrics.

I also wonder if the person who approached Niambi about public speaking is the same one who has hired Christie, xxxtina, Jodi et al to add "sparkle and panache" at your next event.

"RE: Niambi updated her blog"
Posted by alaholly on 06-04-06 at 09:36 AM
It was hard to like Niambi when she was on SO. She was so bitter and depressed and unapproachable. Interesting to read about how she really felt. And interesting to see the strange and disjointed way they film and edit the houseguests' stories. It must be hard to watch yourself on TV and realize how others are seeing you when you don't see yourself that way at all.

I am glad to hear that she seems to be doing very well now and that Iyanla has actually continued to be involved in helping her. Hope she continues to do well and can stay out of unhealthy relationships.

Niambi hasn't started hocking her stuff on eBay has she?

"RE: Niambi updated her blog"
Posted by jubeaners on 06-04-06 at 09:55 AM
Creepyoldwoman wrote: "It's funny but I can read her blog and feel good for her and yet read something from Christie about what she is doing and I feel like gagging. I am wondering if it is the writing style or my own prejudice against Christies theatrics." The difference is, that, what Niambi writes comes from her heart and you truely believe she is talking to you. She tells the reader from the begining that she is not here to sell you something. She actually pulls you into her story and you want to know more about her. Christie, on the other hand, can't write (or spell) and comes across as disingenuous. I know i do alot of eyerolling when i read Christie's blog. I'm just not that into her! She fake, and yes, Christie does play to her audience by using those theatrics. I like Niambi----She is real.
"RE: Niambi updated her blog"
Posted by beckettrep on 06-04-06 at 09:41 AM
I had
>to quit my job of
>almost two years with no
>notice to come out to
>CA. And although I hated
>it, it was stable and
>paid the bills, but I
>couldnt return cause I just
>left. I had to leave
>my apartment and had nowhere
>to call my own to
>live. Even my dog seemed
>to be looking at me
>like he expected me to
>just pack up and leave
>him again. I was sick!


Just to up and leave a job/apartment with no notice is pretty irresponsible so what did Numb-ambi expect she WOULD return home to - a ticker tape parade?? She should have had some time between first applying for and finally being chosen for the House to have a plan of action in order - obviously, based on her own words, she didn't - and so who's fault is that? Just as in the House, it appears that in life, as well, Numb-ambi gets 'out of it' exactly what she puts in - in this case 'nothing'.


I
>have a new, exciting, and
>fulfilling career, not just a
>JOB. I'm a mortgage broker
>and real estate investor!! I
>love what I do and
>can really see myself growing
>into this industry! I'm learning
>something new everyday and soaking
>it all up like a
>sponge. And even though the
>money is secondary, it's great!
>And most importantly, it's financing
>the dream. My creative dreams.
>

Am I missing something here? Where has the mention of any type of education in this field ever been mentioned? How does one become a Mortgage Broker without any formal training in the field? Perhaps I'm mistaken and it doesn't take any formal education?? Someone please set the record straight on this as I just might consider the field myself if possible.
>

And love seems to
>attract love. The more I
>appreciate me, the more appreciation
>others have of me.
>

And this statement, imho, summarizes Numb-ambi's 'real' reason for going into the SO house in the first place - to attract the love and attention of situation man. I firmly believe that was her hope - I think she was hoping situation man would see her in a new and positive light, suddenly have over-whelming appreciation and love for her love of him, and leave his girlfriend once and for all.

From the sound of her entry it doesn't appear to have happened.

"RE: Niambi updated her blog"
Posted by butterfly34 on 06-04-06 at 08:48 PM
> I had
>>to quit my job of
>>almost two years with no
>>notice to come out to
>>CA. And although I hated
>>it, it was stable and
>>paid the bills, but I
>>couldnt return cause I just
>>left. I had to leave
>>my apartment and had nowhere
>>to call my own to
>>live. Even my dog seemed
>>to be looking at me
>>like he expected me to
>>just pack up and leave
>>him again. I was sick!
>
>
>Just to up and leave a
>job/apartment with no notice is
>pretty irresponsible so what did
>Numb-ambi expect she WOULD return
>home to - a
>ticker tape parade??
>She should have had some
>time between first applying for
>and finally being chosen for
>the House to have a
>plan of action in order
>- obviously, based on her
>own words, she didn't -
>and so who's fault is
>that? Just as in
>the House, it appears that
>in life, as well, Numb-ambi
>gets 'out of it' exactly
>what she puts in -
>in this case 'nothing'.
>
>
>
>
>I
>>have a new, exciting, and
>>fulfilling career, not just a
>>JOB. I'm a mortgage broker
>>and real estate investor!! I
>>love what I do and
>>can really see myself growing
>>into this industry! I'm learning
>>something new everyday and soaking
>>it all up like a
>>sponge. And even though the
>>money is secondary, it's great!
>>And most importantly, it's financing
>>the dream. My creative dreams.
>>
>
>Am I missing something here?
>Where has the mention of
>any type of education in
>this field ever been mentioned?
> How does one become
>a Mortgage Broker without any
>formal training in the field?
> Perhaps I'm mistaken and
>it doesn't take any formal
>education?? Someone please set
>the record straight on this
>as I just might consider
>the field myself if possible.
>
>>
>
> And love seems to
>>attract love. The more I
>>appreciate me, the more appreciation
>>others have of me.
>>
>
>And this statement, imho, summarizes Numb-ambi's
>'real' reason for going into
>the SO house in the
>first place - to attract
>the love and attention of
>situation man. I firmly
>believe that was her hope
>- I think she was
>hoping situation man would see
>her in a new and
>positive light, suddenly have over-whelming
>appreciation and love for her
>love of him, and leave
>his girlfriend once and for
>all.
>
>From the sound of her entry
>it doesn't appear to have
>happened.

Why do you care about her job? and why are you assuming she not educated?

"WARNING - butterfly34"
Posted by mysticwolf on 06-05-06 at 02:11 AM
Please read our guidelines. We allow both positive and negative comments about the show and anyone connected with the show. We do NOT allow posters to bash each other. If you do not like to read negative comments about posters, I suggest that you check out the SO Links thread for sites that might be more to your liking.


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"RE: Niambi updated her blog"
Posted by beckettrep on 06-10-06 at 09:28 AM
To answer a question - I DON'T care about her job - it's simply a product of the ongoing DISCUSSION in this thread. As for her education I would be very concerned about someone's level of education if they were handling mine (or anyone else's) finances in the guise of being a 'professional' broker - or whatever it is she's now claiming to be. Posing as someone or something one is not qualified for is no better than the other SO ho's peddling their junk on e-bay - they're all scamming the public (or at least TRYING to).
"RE: Niambi updated her blog"
Posted by butterfly34 on 06-04-06 at 08:44 PM
>Here is the text in case
>you can't get there;
>
>Friday, May 26, 2006
>
>On this Memorial Day, I'm Remembering
>SO & All of You!!
>
>Current mood: accomplished
>Category: Goals, Plans, Hopes
>
>
>So, it's all over! Or at
>least the TV land part.
>But we all know that
>people who do reality TV
>shows are not characters, we
>are REAL people. People who
>had lives before the cameras
>and have lives to go
>back to that dont include
>camera crews and production teams.
>
>
>Looking back at the footage, I
>definitely would have done some
>things differently. But that's because
>even my limited exposure to
>the process had a profound
>effect on me! I have
>truly changed so much. But
>during my time in the
>house, I was being my
>authentic self, in those moments.
>More than anything, when I
>came to the house, I
>was genuinely tired. Tired of
>the struggle, tired of the
>fight, tired of the tears
>and disappointment. I had disengaged
>from my life, so it
>was natural that on many
>levels (esp. early) I disengaged
>from the house. I sincerely
>wish not so much time
>and energy was given to
>the infamous situation with Situation
>Man. But I think they
>(SO) had to put each
>woman in a very specific,
>neat, little category. You know,
>for promo purposes and such.
>My main reason for disrupting
>my whole life and undertaking
>this challenge was to learn
>skills to maximize my full
>potential and uncover my next
>career move. I had a
>job (just over broke) that
>I absolutely hated and I
>wanted a career I could
>not only be proud of,
>but be truly stimulated by.
>
>
>When I first got back home,
>it was an adjustment to
>get used to living for
>real again. The first couple
>weeks was a time of
>deprogramming. I mean, I had
>been so used to being
>aware that EVERY comment and
>conversation was being heard by
>a nameless, faceless 3rd party.
>This acute awareness had caused
>me to censor & stifle
>my speaking, so upon returning
>home, needless to say, I
>was a chatterbox!! I couldnt
>shut-up, I think I was
>even talking in my sleep!!!
>
>
>There's no music allowed in the
>house! We couldnt even sing.
>That really affected my spirit,
>my mood, my soul. Music
>is such a big part
>of my life. I'm always
>walking around singing, or listening
>to CD's, the radio, tapes...
>SOMETHING! As an only child,
>raised by a single working
>mom, I had to learn
>to entertain myself. Music has
>always been major in occupying
>my time. Having to let
>that go in the SO
>house was like breaking an
>addiction. It was hard y'all!
>Some nights I would wait
>until they took our mic's,
>get in the shower and
>sing my head off!! It
>made me feel sooo much
>better, especially after a challenging
>day. Well, when I got
>home, I was giving 3
>hour shower concerts twice a
>day! I was out of
>control and I loved it!
>I realized how much I'd
>missed it and how much
>a part of me music
>is. I mean after all,
>my name means Sweet Melody
>in Swahili. Wether in a
>big way, or small way,
>music will always be a
>part of my life!!
>
>When I was still in the
>house, Mama Iy told me
>she would never leave me.
>And she hasnt. She gave
>me a book of hers
>to help me work through
>and manage my depression &
>continue the healing. It's called
>"Living Through the Meantime". It
>helped me more than I
>can express. There are practical
>steps to follow that walk
>you through the darkness. I
>could hear and see her
>right there with me as
>I completed each exercise. It
>has been a real life
>saver!! She also haggled with
>the show, on my behalf,
>to pick up the tab
>on after-care sessions with a
>psychologist. This meant so much
>to me, cause she didnt
>have to do that, and
>they (the show) were pretty
>much done with me. There
>were only a few qualified
>practitioners in my area. Three
>werent seeing new patients at
>the time, one was not
>at all agreeable to third
>party payment and one I
>found after the show headquarters
>had dissolved. So, I never
>received any official counseling or
>continued therapy after the show,
>but by the grace of
>God, I have found my
>way out of the abyss
>of sadness and despair.
>
>Honestly, for about a month or
>two, I was in the
>belly of the beast. I
>sunk deeper into the melancholy
>lake of depression. I
>felt like I was worse
>off than when I went
>in the house. I was
>disillusioned and angry at the
>way it all ended. I
>was pissed that I was
>seen and characterized and had
>acted so one-dimensional. I had
>to quit my job of
>almost two years with no
>notice to come out to
>CA. And although I hated
>it, it was stable and
>paid the bills, but I
>couldnt return cause I just
>left. I had to leave
>my apartment and had nowhere
>to call my own to
>live. Even my dog seemed
>to be looking at me
>like he expected me to
>just pack up and leave
>him again. I was sick!
>And then there's Situation Man.
>We saw eachother a couple
>times when I first got
>back, but pretty quickly, I
>decided that I needed to
>put some distance between us
>and there was no communication
>for almost 3 months. So,
>there went that as well.
>I felt like I had
>nothing in my life! But
>what I know and see
>now is that I had
>everything. It's like everything had
>to be stripped away, to
>make room for the fullness
>of my future!! I had
>to get real still and
>real quiet and listen. Listen
>to my heart, my intuition,
>my God! I had nothing
>to lean on, or hide
>behind, or point the finger
>at. There was just me.
>I had to come to
>a place when I believed
>that I was enough; that
>I am enough!!
>
>About two months ago I clearly
>saw the light at the
>end of the tunnel and
>now, today, I dont even
>see the tunnel anymore! All
>I see is light!! I
>have a new, exciting, and
>fulfilling career, not just a
>JOB. I'm a mortgage broker
>and real estate investor!! I
>love what I do and
>can really see myself growing
>into this industry! I'm learning
>something new everyday and soaking
>it all up like a
>sponge. And even though the
>money is secondary, it's great!
>And most importantly, it's financing
>the dream. My creative dreams.
>
>
>Most of you know that I
>write (obviously journals and memoirs),
>but I've enjoyed and even
>won awards for writing my
>whole life. I have tons
>of stories and prose and
>lyrics. I remember writing my
>first grade graduation song! It
>was a hoot and came
>so naturally. I'm working on
>a collection of poems and
>short stories, even as you
>read this post. Even though
>I feel my verbal communication
>skills are exceptional (if I
>do say so myself ),
>I feel I express myself
>alot better on paper. I
>am definitely in hot pursuit
>of maximizing my full pen
>potential. I've even chosen my
>pen name, it's Melody Sweet,
>so when you come across
>that name in your local
>bookstore, you'll know exactly who
>it is !!
>
>Then, there's the music and recording.
>I cant tell you what
>a rush that was. It
>was a high like I've
>never known before. I could
>have stayed in the studio
>and played all day long.
>I didnt want it to
>be over. Being there took
>one of the hardest days
>and moments of my life
>and made something good and
>special out of it. And
>the best part? When it
>was over, I had something
>beautiful to show for it.
>Something of me to take
>away. Something to always remember
>that moment by. It was
>like falling in love, I
>felt free and light. I
>felt like I was home...
>Since I've been out of
>the house, I've been back
>in the studio! I have
>recorded three more affirmation tracks
>and four of my original
>poems!! I will put samples
>on this site and make
>the discs in their entirety
>available to anyone that's interested.
>Also, since I dont believe
>SO will be continuing for
>a season 4 (I have
>not been contacted about returning),
>I think I will be
>able to make the Shining
>CD available to you all
>as well. Just let me
>know if you are interested
>and I'll see what I
>can do! But suffice it
>to say, I am releasing
>fear of the Songbird!!
>
>I've also been approached about public
>speaking. Now, this something I
>used to do, but it
>was in a recruiting capacity
>and for the Army no
>less. So, it wasnt the
>most enjoyable experience. However, I
>did thouroghly enjoy meeting and
>talking with young people about
>their futures. That was one
>of the most exciting and
>meaningful things I've ever done!
>I am ecstatic about the
>prospect of fellow shipping with
>women and teenage girls about
>living the life of their
>dreams. When I was first
>approached, my initial thought was,
>"I'm not qualified to
>help anybody esle. I had
>to go on a TV
>show to get help with
>my own life and I
>didnt even finish that right!!
>I dont know nuthin bout
>birthin no babiez Miss Scarlet!"
>But the more I thought
>about it and talked with
>Mama Iy and others, the
>more I've come to realize,
>if not me, then who?
>If not now, then when?
>Tomorrow is not promised and
>I already am everything I
>want to be. To whom
>much is given, much is
>required. Am I going to
>let my fear and negative
>self-talk keep me from giving
>back? Not anymore. I would
>probably never be able to
>express to Iyanla what a
>light and spirit guide she
>has been to me, but
>if I help up even
>one of my sisters in
>pain, or in turmoil, or
>in the dark, then I
>am paying homage to the
>help that has been so
>graciously extended to me. Pay
>it forward, that's what it's
>all about. That's what life
>is all about!! So I
>have humbly accepted the challenge
>of helping to build an
>Ark, like Noah's, for all
>of my sisters and brothers
>who seek refuge from the
>storm and floods of life!
>On this project, as well,
>I will keep you posted.
>I cant wait to meet
>and talk with you all.
>
>
>So, you see, life for me
>is so full and rich
>now. I feel like "the
>queen of the world"! I
>have so much going on
>in my life and so
>much to look forward to,
>I no longer look to
>others for love and validation,
>because I heap it on
>myself. And love seems to
>attract love. The more I
>appreciate me, the more appreciation
>others have of me. The
>life is back in my
>eyes and the song is
>back in my heart. My
>family and friends say that
>I havent looked or sounded
>this happy in years! The
>truth is, I havent felt
>this alive, in years!! I
>am so on, I am
>magic in motion...
>
>I must also address the emails
>and comments you guys leave.
>I cannot even begin to
>adequately express how much your
>kindness and whole-hearted support have
>meant to me. You all
>are so energizing and are
>evidence that I am on
>the perfect path for my
>life. I am so inspired
>by your love and stories
>and each message, EVERY single
>one is special to me.
>For you all to take
>time out of your busy
>lives to reach out to
>me takes my breath away.
>I dont take any message
>or gesture of encouragement for
>granted. I try to personally
>respond to each one, like
>it's the only one. No
>cutting and pasting a form
>letter, I'm all there with
>you!! So I thank you
>for your patience and continued
>understanding, as I have 19
>pages to respond to! And
>that's just since Tuesday!! But
>trust, I will get to
>each one.
>
>I am going to New York
>for the holiday, and will
>probably not be back online
>until next Tuesday! I have
>to say too, that logging
>onto my Myspace page is
>like coming downstairs on Christmas
>morning. You guys always leave
>me the best gifts and
>I get a blast out
>of opening every one! So,
>keep 'em comin' and I'll
>do the same! Peace and
>One Love Y'all...Niambi Now
>
>LOVE IS A VITAMIN, THANKS FOR
>KEEPING ME HEALTHY AND STRONG!!!!!!!!!!
>
>
>
>
>Therefore do not worry about
>tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry
>about itself.
>Each day has enough trouble of
>its own. Matthew 6:34

I'm glad she is during well.


"RE: Niambi updated her blog"
Posted by slickeronstate on 06-05-06 at 08:03 AM
She is so long-winded. In essence, she is stating she came to SO to nap? Nap she did - even in confessional she had to think and stare into space with her "umm" after EVERY word to link a sentence. I still don't comprehend how an Olympic scale athlete smokes. It is not really a wonder she and Christy clashed - both are vacant and were at SO simply for the plush lodgings!
"RE: Niambi updated her blog"
Posted by beckettrep on 06-10-06 at 09:25 AM
>She is so long-winded. In
>essence, she is stating she
>came to SO to nap?
> Nap she did -
>even in confessional she had
>to think and stare into
>space with her "umm" after
>EVERY word to link a
>sentence. I still don't
>comprehend how an Olympic scale
>athlete smokes. It is
>not really a wonder she
>and Christy clashed - both
>are vacant and were at
>SO simply for the plush
>lodgings!


I think we can at least safely assume what she DIDN'T go on SO for - she certainly DIDN'T go there to get any real help in boosting her own self-esteem enough to finally leave situation man - it was obvious she had NO intention whatsover in that regard. It is still my belief that she tried USING the SO House as a means to get situation mans undivided attention - and from the sound of the few phone calls we were privvy to it didn't seem to be working in her favor. She is a slut who got involved with a guy already 'taken' and chose to continue in a quasi-adulterous affair with him - she didn't have the honor to tell him take a hike or at the very least loose the first girlfriend before continuing to carry on with him. She put nothing INTO the SO process and thus got nothing OUT of it - sounds like a fair exchange to me. She can blog and whine about how SO did her so 'wrong' all she wants - it's America and she's allowed to do that but she sure isn't convincing me.

"RE: Niambi updated her blog"
Posted by slickeronstate on 06-05-06 at 08:28 AM
Niambe sounds confused and in denial.

Firstly, she "HAD" to leave her employment and housing to do the show? Or, better - she selected to choose the show and be irresponsible to her employer and landlord?

She is such a great orator? "ummmmmm" (my final answer....)

Don't any of these ladies own a dictionary? use spell check?

Christy (N's nemesis) was a professional resume writer and now N is (in her own words) so much more erudite in communicating via writing than speaking?

She is no doubt still stalking this bum - SM (I don't even know how he came to be called that and everytime anyone uses the term instead of saying Dave or whatever lame name he has....).

She sounds both sexist and racist in her comments.

"RE: Niambi updated her blog"
Posted by beckettrep on 06-12-06 at 08:59 PM
>Niambe sounds confused and in denial.
>
>
>Firstly, she "HAD" to leave her
>employment and housing to do
>the show? Or, better
>- she selected to choose
>the show and be irresponsible
>to her employer and landlord?
>
>
>She is such a great orator?
> "ummmmmm" (my final answer....)
>
>
>Don't any of these ladies own
>a dictionary? use spell check?
>
>
>Christy (N's nemesis) was a professional
>resume writer and now N
>is (in her own words)
>so much more erudite in
>communicating via writing than speaking?
>
>
>She is no doubt still stalking
>this bum - SM (I
>don't even know how he
>came to be called that
>and everytime anyone uses the
>term instead of saying Dave
>or whatever lame name he
>has....).
>
>She sounds both sexist and racist
>in her comments.


I'm glad someone finally sees her the way I do - I was beginning to wonder about myself LOL - I've always contended she is a racist - not so sure about the sexist part but it's obvious everything boils back to race where she's concerned. I feel the same about her 'choosing' to leave a job, choosing not to have a way to pay her landlord and her bills - these were indeed choices she knowingly made all for the sake of being on tv - and as for Lucius - yes, that's SM's REAL name (or so we were led to believe) - she is indeed a slut who continued to chase after (and sleep with) a guy even after she found out he was involved with someone else. Niambi put nothing into her SO process and they gave her nothing in return and once again I will contend it was a very fair exchange of nothings.....

"RE: Niambi updated her blog"
Posted by 26mitogo on 06-04-06 at 10:08 PM
creepyoldwoman wrote: It's funny but I can read her blog and feel good for her and yet read something from Christie about what she is doing and I feel like gagging. I am wondering if it is the writing style or my own prejudice against Christies theatrics.

I think the fact that Niambi was real all along in the SOH and even more so now in her blogs makes a difference. While in the house, part of the reason she didn't get as much as she had hoped was because she didn't play the SO game, adopt a bunch of SO lingo, and kiss some big SO butT. Instead she came in thinking she was there for real help (silly girl!) Also, her blogs include the good with the bad. She isn't trying to fool anyone into thinking her life has been one big happy day of fun since the minute she showed up at the house and only thru creative editing did she come across unhappy & troubled. She admitted there is creativity in the editing & a lot of things are omitted but she can also see where they got their material. She also discusses her depression and her difficulties when she returned to FL. She understands not everyone will agree with everything she does or says and actually invites both positive and negative comments from the readers. Christie on the other hand goes over the top even with those who have written for info so they can legitimately donate to her situation. She has made it clear she wants NO questions & NO negative comments. Everyone should love and worship her. She has declared that her areas are for adoration only. Kind of like when she was in the house ... everyone MUST worship Christie!

Also, Niambi spoke in the confessional the same as she did to a person's face. And we all know Christie could only tell Niambi to her face how she admired her and had sooooo much compassion for her but in confessional she was all hate, all the time.

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creepyoldwoman also wrote: I also wonder if the person who approached Niambi about public speaking is the same one who has hired Christie, xxxtina, Jodi et al to add "sparkle and panache" at your next event.

Oh gosh, I hope not. I hope she would actually get speaking offers based on the fact that she is an extremely accomplished athlete that has had difficulty finding her way after her athletic career ... something that is VERY common ... more so than most realize.

"RE: Niambi updated her blog"
Posted by staceeturner on 06-08-06 at 01:11 PM
Speaking from experience: I know that it is a medical fact that depression causes sleepiness, one reason and this was part of mine that sleeping is like being numb you do not have to hurt or deal with anything by sleeping the day away in my depression I could sleep at least 15 hours a day and have no problem going right back to sleep, just a little bit of reasoning I guess on her (Niambi's behalf),that IMO she could of used her sleeping as a coping mechanism? maybe who knows? I just know that I saw that in her and I have nothing against her I hope she does well in what ever she does....
"RE: Niambi updated her blog"
Posted by Floraworld on 06-12-06 at 03:32 PM
Now her blog at myspace.com has been removed. I can only guess it's because of some of the nutts and negativity.

I for one was supportive of her endeavors and hope to see her go far and live without a manipulative leach like sm. I wanted to read her story above any other of the houseguest and maybe also write a note to her someday (this is something I don't do is write tv reality people or stars). She was one of the few I wouldn't mind trying to advance into stardom only because I sense she would work hard for it and not think everything should come easily as the other hgs do just because they were on a reality star. I also believe if she decided to sell her poems that she wouldn't put together a bunch of crap just to make money but if she didn't think it wasn't worth to sell she wouldn't put them on e-bay.

I'm just saying I think she has some integrity unlike some other hgs, and because she couldn't live without having that integrity is the reason she came to the Starting Over house in the first place.

Niambi, I hope you keep us updated and a way we can contact you. Keep your head up girl.

"RE: Niambi updated her blog"
Posted by sharnina on 06-12-06 at 05:41 PM
I just went to look and her blog is still there. She hasn't updated recently but it's still there.


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