Girl, if you are reading these boards, I want you to know that I am inspired by your beauty and strength. If Starting Over is not back next season, I know that you will continue to move forward towards true happiness. I had parents similar to yours. When I hear my mom's super-critical voice, I try to remember to give myself a break. Call Iyanla when you have moments of doubt. You are NEVER alone! I hope you learn your value and that you deserve to be celebrated.

Best to you!

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I ditto that...and Niambi you had the most class of all the hg's
You were the ONLY one who saw right through Christie's inauthentic way of being.

Best of luck to you....you don't need the SOH, you're better than all of them.

I second that Niambi. You showed courage, grace and pride today when all was said and done and I admire you and respect you for it. Good luck to you and God has not forgotten about you he knows you girl and he is with you. You can now get the help you need from the right people for your depression. .... you dont' need the SOH, you have already started over.

Let me be added to the list of fans!!!! I was so proud of you in your meeting w/IV and Christie.

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I'd rather be at Disneyworld

Niambi, keep your head up girl. I too can relate having an hyperbole critical mother, but in my case add to it a favorite child which wasn't me.

You showed much class on the show and also on your website. You are a beautiful talented woman, let no one tell you less. I feel you deserved so much more from the show. I can say you are my favorite hg, I guess because I related to you moreso than the others. Continue to strive for more and get all the blessings and happiness you so deserve. God bless you.

She gets my vote for being brave and going on the show in the first place, good luck to her and her relationships in the future and I think that she is the only one I have not had anything negative to say.

short&sassy

Niambi, I hope you are reading this thread. I too am a HUGE fan of your courage & strength. I watched intently hoping those on SO could help you see yourself for who you really are, not what you are hearing inside your head ... the years & years of critiquing from parents & coaches who wanted impossible perfection. Chill out. Give yourself a break. You are exceptional but you are, afterall, human. You are someone special without a sport, a medal, or a trophy ... that isn't what made you special. When those mean, critical thoughts hound you, remind yourself to change them ALL. You are beautiful, more inside than out (& that's saying a lot because you are beautiful - but who cares!) You have a lot to offer the world and it has nothing to do with your exceptional athletic talent - go out there and give children the acceptance you didn't get - help them know they are great whether they win the competition or not ... it will help you see your own value.

I have a 22 year old daughter who grew up in a sport. I now see how the years & years of striving for perfection (she was a gymnast) has affected her. Her injuries pervented her from continuing in college & I am now thankful. I saw & heard from you many of the same mental patterns she has expressed. My daughter spent 15 yrs in gymnastics striving to become the perfection her coaches expected and demanded, just to have them turn their backs on her after devistating injuries ... caused by these same coaches pushing harder than the human body could sustain ... always placing the blame on the "weakness" of the child.

And thank goodness someone saw thru Christie's cr@p. I don't know how you kept from punching her in the face. Know that we all saw thru her also and yelled at her daily thru the TV. I hope you were able to reconnect with Kim, she suffered a lot of the same SO abuse you had to endure ... as did TJ. And the 3 of you will always be far far ahead of the abusive little DAW whinners that got to control this pitiful SO year.

And one last opinion: Mr.SM is a player, probably always has been, probably always will be. I don't know him, I just know the type. If he really cared about anyone's feelings but his own he would never have hurt 2 women & probably countless others. He knows what to say & how to pull you in. IMO ... it's part of his game. Don't play. You have too much to offer someone who loves you and couldn't stand the thought of hurting you.